Constance Madlyn Lufkin, 90, passed away peacefully on Sunday, December 28, 2025. She was born on December 6, 1935 in Turlock, San Joaquin Valley, California.

Connie was a performer from the start. At just three years old, she took the stage at Turlock High School singing "You Must Have Been a Beautiful Baby." Throughout her school years, she danced and acted, taking on character roles in regional theater and performing in children's radio programs. She studied piano and acting and led the Northern California Women's Drill Team as their majorette (baton twirling and marching) in parades up and down the California coast.

She attended San Jose State College studying Speech/Drama and continued to dance and act.

During college in San Francisco's beatnik era, she participated in the civil rights movement, an experience that profoundly shaped her independent spirit and distinctive outlook on life.

As Connie herself once described it, 'My artistic life was put on hold while I did my share of marrying, mothering and divorcing.' In the mid-1960s, she lobbied for the ERA and remained, in her own words, 'a staunch supporter of equal rights and an avid, if not rabid, feminist' until her final days.

While living in Moab during the early 2000's she started a clothing line named WEAR ME which primarily included repurposed clothing with embellishments. This method of repurposing with embellishments expanded to many other types of objects. All of this art she sold at various venues in the Moab and Salt Lake City area.

Connie completed college at age 62, graduating from the University of Utah with a BA in Sociology with a certification in drug and alcohol addictions counseling.

As Connie put it, 'Besides my family, I most love words.' She was an avid reader and passionate writer who explored every form—poems, novels, screenplays—ultimately finding her voice in storytelling. In her later years, she devoted herself to 'Flashback Forward,' a self-published PTSD recovery workbook that became her legacy, combining her love of words with her desire to help others find healing.

Until the end, Connie found joy in old black-and-white movies, especially those featuring the high fashion she adored. She was a funny, thoughtful, and passionate woman whose love for cats, dogs, and wolves was evident everywhere—in the art that filled her home, in her writings, and in how she lived her life.

Connie was truly one of a kind.

She married Ronald Davies in 1958, and together had two children. Though they divorced, they remained in each other's lives as parents to their children. She later married Lindsey Lufkin, whose surname she chose to keep for the rest of her life. In 1983, she was married for nine years to Ben Slavich, her high school sweetheart.

She is lovingly remembered and cherished by her daughter Camille (Davies) Bullock of Utah; son Aaron Davies and his wife Edith of Florida; Grandchildren: Annie Elkins (Colin), Pam Elkins (Nate), Austin Davies (Paige), Megan Stoia, Tyler (TJ) Elkins, Lezlie-Anne Ivie (Russell), Cambria Elkins, Darian (Izzy) Elkins. Fourteen Great Grandchildren and three Great Great Grandchildren.

She also had a son, Michael, and a daughter, Debbie, from whom sadly life's painful circumstances separated her from them early on.

Connie was preceded in death by both of her parents Mary Violet (Fernandes) Lafontaine and Clement Clarence Liemas and her only sister Yvette LaFontaine.

The family wishes to express profound gratitude to Dr. Cacciamani, Karin, and Caitlin, who blessed Connie with 15 years of extraordinary care—going far beyond medicine to enrich her life with kindness, companionship, and countless thoughtful gestures…and to her granddaughter Lezlie-Anne and family, who opened their hearts and home to care for Connie with love and tenderness in her final days. She also had a number of people come into her home to help her in the last number of years but none were as special as Colette Harmer.

A Celebration of Life will be held from 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm on January 10th at Sharon Gardens 3354 South Sue Street, Fifth Floor Community Room. Formal remarks and shared memories at 7:00 pm.

In lieu of flowers, the family welcomes contributions toward creating a memorial garden where loved ones can gather to remember and honor Connie in the years to come. Contributions can be made through Venmo @Camille-Bullock-2 or here on the Everloved website.

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