Gary and I have known each other for almost 50 years. I remember that Becky and I met Margaret and Gary for the first time at the Friendship Chinese restaurant in Los Angeles Chinatown when Gary's Jennifer and my Roland were only a few months old. On a Saturday night in 1972, both of our families arrived at the Friendship restaurant at the same time. Since there were no small tables available, the waiter asked us to share a large round table where we both put the babies in the baby carriers on the table. Gary was a quiet person and so was I; we both stared at our babies and were shy to start a conversation while we were waiting for our food. The funny thing was when the waiter delivered the food to our table we realized that we both ordered identical dishes, and we both looked at each other with a satisfied smile (good selections).

A few years later, we met again as teammates on the Old Horse basketball team; ever since then we became close friends.

We have played many basketball tournaments throughout twenty some years. Gary was not a tall player but he was a good shooter. I remember that every time I got a rebound I always looked for him to pass to. One time I joked with him that "I could be so rich if you paid me for all those passes you received from me all those years."

I will miss Gary as a good friend and a great basketball teammate.

Gary was my brother Charles’ classmate’s older brother. We know their family very well since Charles and Gary’s brother were classmates from kindergarten up until high school in Taiwan. 

I met Gary in 1972, when we founded Hua Mei. Although that business venture wasn’t successful, we became good friends from that initial partnership. During our gatherings throughout the years, Gary, with his intelligence and mathematical skills, remained undefeatable in Mahjong, Maza, and Pai Gow. He earned the moniker: Prince of Maza!

When my husband, Richard, had a fainting accident, Gary and Margaret kindly organized a Mahjong game every Monday during Richard’s convalescence to help with his recovery. After that first game, while we were saying our farewells in the front of their house, Gary said, “Be careful to drive, Dian Thun.” Gary was so sweet; he was looking out for me since he knew that that was the first time I drove to their house, and I was nervous.

Gary lucked out in finding an extremely intelligent and competent wife. Margaret would take care of all of Gary’s needs. Since 1982, we have traveled with Gary and Margaret over 20 times. They were the best travel companions. We will miss him so much.

嘉琳；

辰若大哥在睡覺中走了，真是幾世修來的福氣。而他娶了你與你牽手五十餘年，走的必定此生無憾。請不要太傷心，他會永遠活在大家心中。

三十多年前我們剛剛自東部搬到加州時就認識了辰若和嘉琳夫婦。初見辰若只感覺到他不苟言笑，神態嚴肅, 所以多是和嘉琳交談。但是日子久了，發現辰若的知識非常淵博，無論古今中外，歷史地理，時事政治，旅遊運動…他都可以侃侃而談。經常他講話的神情表現的若無其事，但內容卻又很幽默詼諧，我們常戲稱他為冷面笑匠。

辰若無論作什麼事，都非常專注用心，作到最好。他的書法寫得很好，毛筆字寫的剛勁有力，形神兼備。他的高爾夫球打的很好，比賽多次得獎。他也是麻將高手，常勝將軍。

辰若和嘉琳是令人稱羡的恩愛夫妻。嘉琳在20歲時和辰若情定終生，22歲時喜结連理。嘉琳婚後不僅照顧雙方的父母，裁培三位出色的兒女，更成就了自己的事業。辰若被嘉琳照顧的無微不至，家庭幸福美滿。

辰若一生為人瀟洒，在睡夢中離開了我們。走的這麼瀟洒，不禁令我想起徐志摩寫的 ”再別康橋”。

     輕輕的我走了，

     正如我輕輕的來；

     我輕輕的招手，

     作別西天的雲彩。。。。

辰若安息，嘉琳節哀。

其煌，小雅敬輓

On behalf of Carrie and Brian, I would like to express our sincerest condolences on the passing of Gary

I will always remember him as a kind and generous man.

When I came to the US some 50 years ago as a student, I stayed with Margaret and Gary who were newly married.  I was the so called third wheel. They took good care of me with never an unkind word.  I will never forget their kindness.

Gary was a man of few words., but when he did express his feelings about something, he was usually right on point.

He was quietly funny.  I remember a story he told me when he was at UC Davis. 

This was before the days of Uber or Lyft.  He needed to go somewhere but he did not have a car.   He decide to try hitchhiking.  On the side of the road, he stuck his thumb out, except it was pointing downwards.   For the longest time he could not understand why no one stopped for him.

We will all miss him very very much

姐 姐， I am so  very sorry…  I will always remember his kindness and generosity. ❤️

Linda

歌聲沉、琴聲低、無言訴心淒

一甲子、心相繫、一朝終別離

談古今、論春秋、世事本無常

上髙原、下河川、錦繡大地憶

Do not stand at my bed and weep

I am not there, I do not sleep

I am in a thousand winds that blow

I am the fresh air up there

I am the fertile soil on land

I am the swimming fish in water

When you find me in the autumn's hush

I am in the graceful rush

Of pretty leaves in circling current

I am a scholar with passion

I am in the homes with love

I am on the Internet Cloud

I am the pretty leaves that fly

I am in each lovely thing

Do not stand at my bed and cry

I am in the cloud, and love you all