My parents were wonderful people. Unfortunately they were not good financial planners and died with a great deal of debt. We have 5 kids, 2 in college and one living with us along with our 4 grandkids. My mom moved in with us after dad died and she fainted leaving the mall. Turns out all 3 major arteries were blocked. She ended up having open heart surgery the same week our son was graduating from basic training in Texas. She insisted I still go, but I flew my oldest 30yo son up from North Carolina to stay with her. The night before she died she said she was in horrible pain and they would not give her any pain meds other than what they were already giving her at home before she even had surgery because they felt she was developing an "addiction." She couldn't even remember where I was. Her last words to me were, "Please come to me." I got a flight home for the next afternoon. That morning my son called to say she had thrown up a massive amount and gone into cardiac arrest. They managed to get her back, but lost her again as I was waiting to get on the plane. They wanted me to let her go, but I told them to keep trying. They got her back again and lost her again as I was Ubering to the hospital. I told them to keep trying. I got there just in time to tell her I loved her and to say hi to dad for me. She arrested again and the doctor begged me to let her go. I agreed and not 2 minutes later my brother walked up the hospital stairs having flown in from Florida. Turns out my mother had developed a bowel obstruction. Her pain was ignored. Her vomiting from the night before was ignored. She died choking on her own vomit on a hospital bathroom floor. No lawyer will take the case. I abandoned my mother in her time of need and have been suicidal ever since.