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Brenda "Bren" Fay (Hayes) Allen

Liberty, NE, USA

September 1, 1956 - May 22, 2021

Sep 1, 1956 - May 22, 2021

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Brenda Fay Hayes-Allen, entered this life on September 1, 1956 to the late Samuel Hayes and Mary Virginia Brunner-Hayes in Meridian, Mississippi.  Brenda was the only child born to this union.

Brenda's father, Samuel Hayes, served in WWII and passed away in 1959. Mary V. Hayes, left Mississippi after his death and migrated north to Chicago, Illinois for a new life.  Mary worked tirelessly to provide for Brenda and give her the best life a single mom could give on her income.  Mary passed away in August 1996 after helping raise Brenda s six strong-willed and often hard-headed children.

As a young girl, Brenda attended Catholic school and later enrolled in the Chicago Public School System at  Benjamin Banneker Elementary School. She graduated from William Jones College Preparatory High School in 1973. Brenda began her college endeavors at Chicago State University but due to her health issues and raising her  children, she would go on to finish college much later in life.  At the young age of 16, Brenda married Joseph Dwight Allen (RIP 2009). To this union were born six children, Raquel (1975), Joseph (1976), Precious & Amethyst (1977), Raphael (1978) and Mary (1979).  Her marriage was tumultuous and brought much heartache, it ended in 1996. Moments of happiness were essentially enjoyed because of their children. In 1997, Brenda met and dated Jourdon Hayden (RIP 2014) who brought her many smiles and adventures as they traveled across the United States and Canada sightseeing and hiking.

Brenda struggled with physical and mental maladies throughout her life. She endured the perils of peritoneal and hemodialysis for 15 years.  In June 2010, She moved to Omaha, Nebraska with her daughter, Raquel and son-in-love, Reginald in June 2010.

Recently, the family moved to rural Nebraska to begin gardening and raising livestock. The seeds Brenda purchased for the garden will be shared with her children and still planted in her memory.  On July 10, 2012, she underwent a kidney transplant to improve the quality of her life by ending dialysis treatments. The kidney was from a living donor, her eldest daughter.

In 2015,  Brenda went on to receive a Bachelor of  General Studies in Gerontology from the University of Omaha-Nebraska.  She was also inducted into the National Honors Society and received multiple scholarships for stellar grade point averages.

Becoming a born again believer in Messiah Jesus at the age of 16, she attended Christ Bible Center Church in Chicago, Illinois, where her late mother-in-love, Elena Roe-Allen, was the pastor. In 2010, Brenda was prompted by the Holy Spirit to return to the ancient path of following the scriptures as a Torah observant  believer in YAHUAH ELOHIM (The GOD of Israel) and His Son, who she now calls YAHUSHA HAMASCHIACH (Jesus the Messiah). Brenda was an avid student of the Paleo Hebrew language. Her weekly Saturday sabbath fellowship was with House of Israel Charlotte-Arthur Bailey Ministries.

Brenda did not go off her rocker this time, she STILL read the SAME KJV BIBLE (and the Cepher), prayed in the Spirit, prayed to the Most HIGH GOD, fasted as she was able, gave tithes and offering and maintained her walk before YAH from a Hebrew perspective of the faith. She also observed the Feast Days commanded by The Most High and also observed by Yahusha-Jesus (ex. Passover).

Brenda will FOREVER be remembered for being STRONG, a FIGHTER, soft spoken, gentle, meek, introverted, faithful, committed, kind, fiercely intelligent, easy to love and  sweet .  She never raised her voice to curse anyone out or start a fight, although her children often wished she would have in certain situations.  Brenda learned early that her fight was NOT against flesh and blood!

Brenda leaves to celebrate her life:

~ Six children; Raquel Wilson (Reginald) of Omaha, Nebraska, Joseph II (Tanya) of Country Club Hills, Illinois, Precious Harris (Jimmy) of Omaha, Nebraska, Amethyst Henderson (RIP Jabari) of Omaha, Nebraska, Raphael (Adrienne) of Chicago, Illinois and Mary Ramey (Cedric) of Roselle, Illinois
~ One half sister; Mrs. Dorothy Jackson of Chicago, Illinois
~ 2 Adopted sons; Ndubuisi Eke (Deborah) of Ikeja, Lagos and Cletus Okoro (MaryCle) of Arochukwu, Nigeria
~24 grandchildren; Samuel Henderson, Hannah Wilson, Terrance Greenwood (Zurett), Joshua Allen (Jordyn), Unique Allen, Joseph Allen III, Justin Allen, Jeremy Allen, Jaden Allen, Janiya Allen, Alexis Harris, Isaiah Harris, Matthew Harris, Jabari Henderson Jr., Javaris Henderson, Brandon, Coleman Jr., Aspen Coleman, Jasmine Allen, Summer Allen, Piper Armbrust, Malik Ramey, Jada Ramey, Batyah Eke and Hesed Eke
~7 great-grandchildren; Londyn Greenwood, Amaiya Rose Greenwood, Baby Boy Greenwood, Za’nyiah Greenwood (RIP), Amir Allen, Neveah Henderson, Nova Sky Henderson

~ A very special cousin and friend to the end, Mrs. TC Gray of Virginia

A great host of nieces, nephews, cousins, relatives and friends!

Brenda will be missed, but we will see her again in the kingdom!

A SECRET PLACE OF THUNDER
WRITTEN BY PRECIOUS HARRIS FOR MOM

Tomorrow is never promised. I lay awake and long to hear your voice. I hear whispers surrounding me.

They are reminding me of what was.

Tomorrow is never promised. I walk the earth searching for your scent. Your scent awakens me.

It is reminding me of what was.

Tomorrow is never promised. I cry to the wind for comfort. Your love came to comfort me.

It is reminding me of what was.

Tomorrow is never promised. The storm came invited and yet not wanted. Hidden in an abyss.

Building in power. Stronger than man. Captive of all worries. Screaming insane. Louder than ever. Determined to stand.

Where my love for you will always be, In the secret place of thunder.

TRIBUTES

Ma, I do not have adequate words to describe the emptiness and the shalom combined. Since you left on that sabbath afternoon, I have been counting the days you have not been in pain in your physical body. I have hope and confidence in YAHUSHA that we will meet again in eternity. ABBA YAH was Faithful, even in the suffering, His grace was sufficient for you. You saw the glory and you opted for it. Precious in the sight of our Mighty Elohim is the death of His saints. All will be well. To infinity and beyond. Raquel

BF, Thank you for accepting me as your son, through the good and bad, you always loved me. I will miss bringing you snacks and honeybuns after coming in from work. You will always be my BF. Thank you for giving me a beautiful wife, your daughter. My heart is crushed because I love you so much. Your son-in-love, Reggie

Ma, you know I'm not one for a lot of words. I'm going to miss you more than I can describe right now. My children and family will miss you also. You know and knew I loved you and I always will. Joey

My life will never be the same without hearing your voice and seeing your beautiful smile. The bond and love we shared will forever be in my heart. You always encouraged me to be the best in all that I did and I am a better person because of that. Your strength, courage, and love will always be remembered. I love you so much mommy. Precious aka Fresha

Mama, as much as I hate that I will never have more time with you, I have comfort knowing you're no longer in pain. The selfish part of me wanted you to stay. But the empathetic part of me understands why you had to go. You are free from the worry of this world. You are free to dance, run, and fly like the birds you loved to watch. I will forever hold in my heart the good memories and love you showed me. I love you beyond forever. Amethyst

You gave me so many books to read when I was a kid because you couldn't always answer every question I asked. Showed me where the constellations were in the night sky. Taught us that education and family unity was important.
Your discipline was with dialog, love, faith in God, and doing what's morally right in the eyes of the Father. I was always her baby boy, your stanky-booty. I loved and still cherish the secret adventures to Klacy's or the mall, or even just to run around with you while you paid bills or did things for others. You taught me what a good man really is and does for his family and himself. You motivated and inspired me to pursue my passions in science and technology. You taught me how to be self-sufficient, you taught me compassion and empathy. You made everyone feel as though they were special and unique, we all thought we were your favorite. That we all are beautiful children. I'm happy to have made you proud. I always looked up to you and knew that I could talk to you about anything and be met with love and understanding along with words of wisdom. My love for you Ma will never fade, you are always with me in my heart, soul, and spirit. I miss you so much already and I will never forget you. The love of a mother is irreplaceable and unmatched, that is you. Your loving Son, Raphael Corey

My beautiful, kind, graceful Mommyface, words can never express how I love you so very much and how absolutely devastated and sad I am. I will forever miss your laugh, our jokes, your smile, our chats about recipes and what we're having for dinner. Our many conversations where we would talk about everything and I could tell you anything and you would never judge me. You always listened and showed me love and gave me amazing advice, or even just gave me an ear when I needed someone to share my feelings with. You always shared in my joys and would be more upset than I was if I faced disappointment. I will miss your sweet voice and your kind heart. You were my best friend and I'm so proud to be your baby girl. I will take you with me everywhere I go for the rest of my life. I love you so much Mommyface, rest well Beautiful. Your Turah

Mrs. Allen,
I love you so much and you will be greatly missed. Thank you for always being so loving to me and supporting me and my family in every way. You were more than a mother in law to me, you were always so nice, thoughtful, and caring. May you rest in paradise, your son, Cedric

MUSIC OF MY HEART
Dedicated to Mom from Mary Keturah

~ You'll never know what you've done for me, what your faith in me has done for my soul. You'll never know the gift you've given me, I'll carry it with me.
~ Through the days ahead I'll think of days before. You make me hope for something better, you make me reach for something more.
~ You taught me to run, you taught me to fly. Helped me to free myself inside. Helped me hear the music of my heart. You opened my eyes, you opened the door to something I've never known before, and your love is the music of my heart.
~ You were the one always on my side, always standing by, seeing me through. You were the song that always made me sing. I'm singing this for you. Everywhere I go I'll think of where I've been, and one of the ones who knew me better than anyone ever will again.
~ What you taught me, only your love could ever teach me. You got through when no one could reach me before. Cause you always saw in me all the best that I could be, it was you who set me free.
~ You taught me to run, you taught me to fly. Helped me to free myself inside. Helped me hear the music of my heart. You opened my eyes, you opened the door to something I've never known before, and your love is the music of my heart.

Grandchildren Tributes

Hi Grandma, Missing you is not a good enough description of how I feel with you gone. I'll remember all the cups of hot chocolate you made me as I now do the same for my two daughters. I'll take joy in sharing stories about you with your great granddaughters. Love Always, Jabari Jr.

Grandma, I am heartbroken, missing you, and like my mom, I wanted more time with you. Life has no guarantee but I guarantee I will love you always. I love you Grandma, Aspen

Grandma, my heart is broken. I too thought we would have more time together. In the name of your well-being,God saw fit for things to go a different way. I'm happy for the good times and memories that will carry me when I'm missing you. Rest on Grandma, you deserve it. Love Javaris

The angels are so lucky to be able to be with you, see you smile, hear you laugh. But I was even luckier to know you as my grandma. I'll miss you, I love you. BJ

Dear Fufu, I love you so very much and you'll be greatly missed and you'll forever be in my memories . Thank you for all the fun memories. All the times of us watching movies, you always making me food, and us always having a great time whenever together. I ll forever cherish those moments we had. I love you. Your Grandson, Malik

Grandma, I love you so much. I’ll always remember us talking on the phone and our conversations about school or anything. I ll miss all the time we spent together playing games and watching tv. I’ll miss our chats and how much you cared about me. I love you so much and thank you for loving me back. rest in peace. Jada

We are thankful and honored that you were our Grandma. We will never forget the love and care you had for us. You always cooked the best food (we won't tell our mom). We will miss you so much. There is so much more we want to say but can't find the words. We love you so much. Alexis, Isaiah and Matthew

Grandma Brenda, Thank you for always loving me and my mom and making us feel a part of you. I know you loved me and I'll always remember my visit to Nebraska. Caleb Joshua

Ma, I will miss watching Law and Order and NCIS with you. I've lived with you since forever, so I know life will not be the same. You are my only grandparent and I am so hurt. I love you always. Your Hannah Banana

Hey Ma! Since you’re with the Father now, I’m beginning to see more clearly the impact you’ve had on my life, the lives of others, and the fact that you’ll still continue to. You were an amazing grandmother to me, even when my younger self didn’t want to listen when you asked me to do something... you were still kind, patient, and loving towards me (after telling my mom I needed a whooping). I’ll always cherish the fact that you loved so many different types of recipes and kitchen gadgets. I can already tell it’s gonna be a big part of who I am in the long run. Thank you again for always being so kind. I’m happy to be of service to our Father in Heaven so that I can see you again one day. Sam

Mom, you were a great Mother. You lived a life of significance. You touched our lives with your patience, gentleness and joy in affliction. We all can make a difference irrespective of our circumstances when we know we are called to Greatness. You will be missed! Your adopted son, Ndubuisi, Deborah, Batyah Ariela & Hesed

~You ever lost a loved one or had to say good-bye too soon, left to journey through dark days of grief, wondering if you'd ever be able to carry on without them at your side?
~You ever received a hard diagnosis, faced the fear of the unknown, and felt the effects of disease and pain?
~You ever sat at the bedside of a dying friend, and held a hand that once was strong, whose life had been cut short from the ravages of pain and sickness? I had this while I was waiting on my double blessings from YAHUAH.
I will MISS our Mother and Grandmother of Zion from the USA, Brenda F. Allen. Now I feel the pain.
Your adopted son, Cletus and MaryCle Okoro

When

Written by TC Gray, Cousin of Brenda Fay

When you came, it was as soft as a mist, a vapor, a fog.

When you were there, consistent, reliable, concerned, comforting, Familiar.

When you were there, an ear, a heart.

When you spoke, it was beauty, gentleness, and Forgiving.

Your shoulders were broad, your back strong and your countenance hidden by the mask of Faith. When you made the declaration, affirming it would make it true, so I didn’t. But you knew.

When you knew the time was near, your words were grace and peace.

So when I see a mist, a vapor, a fog - I’ll know.

Order of Service
MC………………………………….........Latrezal White (Cousin)
PROCESSIONAL….……………………… Family
SCRIPTURE………...................................Samuel Henderson (Grandson)
PRAYER ………..............Elder Bobbie Dunkinsel
OBITUAR……………...Crystal Barrett (Cousin)
SELECTION........... GRACE by Fred Hammond
(Brenda’s favorite song)
RESOLUTIONS & ENCOURAGEMENT......Carrie Jean Hargrove (Cousin)
EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE (3 MINS.)..............….. Raphael, Amethyst, Precious
EULOGY…............Raquel S. Wilson (Daughter)

Reviewal of Remains
~Recessional
~ Benediction
~Interment
Mount Hope Cemetery
~Repast
Good Shepherd Funeral Home

Brenda's Children Acknowledgement of Appreciation

The children of Brenda Fay Allen extend our most sincere gratitude and appreciation for the abundance of prayers, love, and support shown towards us during this difficult time. A special thank you to House of Israel Charlotte-Arthur Bailey Ministries and HOI Family for your continued support and prayers. Thank you to Pastor Ndubuisi & Deborah Eke of House of Israel Lagos for always being one phone call away for fervent prayer and support through the rough nights and moments of joy.

A warm thank you to Zaqane Efrayim & Sister Nebiyah Bridges for wise counsel and tender support. Thank you to Sister Sharon Campbell for the love you showed to our mom and the devoted support to Raquel and her family with motherly wisdom and honesty. Thank you to Pastor Cletus Okoro and Sister MaryCle and House of Israel Ministries Nigeria for your consistent prayer watches. We extend a heartfelt thank you to our Aunt Lamia for staying connected with all of us and loving us unconditionally as Joseph, your brother's, children. Your fervent prayers and obedience to the Holy Spirit opened doors for reconciliation that made our mother's transition peaceful.

Crystal, your neverending support, love, listening ear, and advice have been life-saving. A heartfelt thank you to Skip Barrett and Barbara Barrett Events and Production for your love, support, and on-time business savvy.

Shalom and thank you to Brenda's extended family who called her Ema Brenda, Nikia, Sharahyah, Channa, Vashia, MattanahYAH, Janisha, Bailey and Kayla, and all of their lovely children that loved Ema Brenda immensely.

Brenda's children would also like to extend a special thank you to The Nebraska Medical Center and Dr. Chelsea Navarrette, Brenda's primary care physician, that worked tirelessly to treat our mother with the best possible options for her complex medical issues. A loving thank you to Beatrice Community Homecare and Hospice team: Lori (Social Worker), Sharon (Chaplain), Becky, Josie, Terri (BCH Hospice Nurses), Tracy (HHA), and Tina (Home Health nurse).

And to everyone that has called each of us, posted condolences to our social media pages, given money for expenses, sent cards and text messages, THANK YOU, from the bottom of our hearts.

Pallbearers
Joseph Allen II
Raphael Allen
Reginald Wilson
Samuel Henderson
Isaiah Harris
Matthew Harris
Javaris Henderson

Interment
Friday, May 28, 2021 | 3PM
Mount Hope Cemetery
7602 Military Avenue
Omaha, NE 68134

Repast
Good Shepherd Funeral Home
4712 S. 82nd Street
Omaha, NE 68127

Final arrangements have been entrusted to:
Good Shepherd Funeral Home

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