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Barbara Jean Havens
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My Aunt Barb was diagnosed with having cancer. At first, we was hoping that it wasn't cancer cause we finally got her to go to an Emergency Room to find out what exactly was wrong with her and when they did Xrays on her, they found a huge mass on her right lung. She was so sweet of a person and I personally know that I will never be the same person cause I been by her side every week since back in 1998 when I graduated High School and got a job. She didn't drive cause my Aunt was disabled as she had problems mentally. People had took advantage over my Aunt and even took her for granted and made fun of her just cause of how she spoke which family knew what she was talking about and we sure love her very much. Her husband , well, I do love my Uncle but he would make me angry way he talked to my Aunt by calling her stupid which she told me many times which I checked on this incredible woman every single week when I worked at my first job and went and got my Aunt on many many occasions to just go with me to ride and come shopping with me. She never had much money cause she drew a check and paying for everything costed her whole check every month until I got her an apartment where we lived at so she didn't have pay all she had, God rest her soul. She lived without electric and water for a very long time although she owned her own trailer, she wasn't able to do everything and she paid payments to own her own trailer and never had no other income. So she lived so very hard without having electric and water. So that is why I did what I did and came and got her for. I even had her to come home with me to stay few days so she could get a bath and everything. So she indeedly had it rough for a while until I got her talked into getting her an apartment for herself which was maybe 10 to 15 years ago. Her death came so suddenly that we didn't get enough time to plan a funeral and actually have the cash to do this and my other family members can only do so much since my oldest Uncle can't hardly work anymore cause he is older than my mother which is above 73 years old which my mother who is my Aunts sister is 74 years old so they aren't able to do what they use to be able to do. We would love to be able to have proper service for her like everybody else which I already said I would absolutely try pitch in to help just to have her cremated and have enough to at least have visitation with friends and family my Aunt adored. I lit her face up every time I went and got her and she was so happy to see me when I showed up. We would talk together, I would pay for her dinner or supper every time we went shopping and get other things too that she needed cause she wasn't able to afford nothing for years. I can only do so little now cause where I was laid off from a job back in February of this year which had depressed me as that made eight different jobs that I lost due to being laid off and right when I was fixing to go full time at these jobs. So tired of trying to get a job where I can be employed for a long time like I had when I worked 10 years for just one company until they moved to China and Mexico since NAFTA got signed into law. Ever since then, been so hard to find a job that would hire and keep employees for a long time. But this is my story though about my Aunt and the need of funds to help give my Aunt what she really deserves since she tried so much and she was a very sweet caring person once someone gave a chance to be her friend. I did lose two other Aunts due to same thing but they had time and our family had time to start saving and getting ready for the inevitable such as a funeral. Coming up with the expenses takes time and we need help for people that could help if they chose to do so. The actual cost is $2750 to cremate her maybe little more to at least have her to view for family and friends and all donations will go to my favorite person in this whole world to at least give proper service and more if we could do so. We would be happy for anything that anyone is capable to help in time of need. This is really first time, I had to do this and even ask and I really wouldn't ask if things were a different scenario . It's hard for everybody and I am grateful for all help, donations, and gratitude that anybody shows and can do as every little bit helps out so much. I wish I could get me a good job and do have applications out to some jobs. We love everybody and God bless anyone who can help out and I will pray for anybody that can help during this time. It came so quick and was incredibly fast. She just got diagnosed and treatment began only two months ago and one night she couldn't breathe and she stayed up all night cause she came and stayed in our home instead of her own so someone could help her around to use the bathroom and so forth. I came home on Sunday afternoon and she asked me to go back to ER and I took her. I rubbed her back as it felt good to her and when I took her back, they rushed her on up to UK two weeks ago. We hoped we could help her and then Friday night last week, she was doing okay but we think that someone upsetted her cause Saturday morning she almost passed but they put her on life support which we didn't wanted to see her suffer like my other two Aunts did taking chemo and also radiation which they all had stage 4 cancer which didn't help them and she passed away Saturday which she was in UK hospital only for 2 weeks so this was so very fast that nobody had any chance to save or do any planning for funeral expenses. Sorry to skip around but just trying to give anybody a quick snapshot of how fast this terrible event happened and give a before snapshot about my relationship and how my relationship had always been to my Aunt. I feel already lost without her cause I loved her so very much. Thank you to people ahead of time for anyone's help and may God bless you in many things for any help. Thank you for hearing my story of this wonderful soul that I lost but I know she is in a better place and feeling so good being with her siblings that left as well as her mother and father as she grieved for her dad a lot. So I know she is absolutely in good hands with the Lord and that does make me smile and gives me so much hope.
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