The "about " needs to be updated. Elaine needs to be deleted or Steve needs to be added. I've tried helping her and at first she was fine and as of yesterday, she was terrible to me. I don't know her but she's not the only parent and I guarantee her grief isn't more important than Steve's. 

32 today? I met Jose half his lifetime ago. When he was 16, we had a long discussion about goals and the future and specifically drugs.  Andrew, you were listening. You were respectful.  You gave me feedback and I knew then you were a good kid.  I was deeply saddened when I heard what happened.  I've figured out after our talk, now, that peer pressure was too strong. You made friends, became "family" with the people you associated with most recently and put you in the position to die. Your dad misses his only son like crazy. This whole mess is driving him crazy. Anytime he was hard on you or lost his patience,  especially after the last OD when he got you straight again and promised not to fall back again.  My mom was killed in a drug-related situation  I can relate somewhat although I don't pretend to know the hurt your dad is feeling, or your friends for that matter.  People are filling in blanks for me. You were moved to another location so whoever could avoid the police.  Whether you could have been saved instead of moved, I do not know. I do know that many moving parts during the entire incident need to be handled by police and I hope ANY AND EVERYONE  involved from who you got the poison from until 911 came after you were moved away from the friend's place where you died to keep them out of other trouble. Another friend of yours just died because of drugs. The heartache in your Arkansas family is so high and I grieve for them too. However, family and friends responsible for the chain of events need to be held culpable. As a former journalist,  I will press for this. This is the closest to retribution I can think of but it won't bring you back. I truly hope by your death and others, it might save the people you love and who love you from a terrible fate. Keep others from dying. Scare them away from the dangerous  drugs, death and the loss of good kids like you. Oh, more about your dad. He's dealing with grief none of us understands.  Whatever what he's said that has sounded harsh in the past and now is out of love and the worst grief - losing a child. Anyway so this is my way of communicating to those left behind. I wish many of you could be more compassionate instead of passing judgment on what they don't understand a father can feel or how it can be expressed as anger, outrage, and from the deepest pit of sorrow. 

Dad is missing from the obituary.  Ok. Apparently there's a real one, complete somewhere. 

Jose I'm mad as a mf at you this was not suppose to be how you went out! I begged and pleaded for you to watch what you were doing. I know we all suffer from our addictions but as hard as we went we should have been in a shoot out or police chase gone bad or something outrageous not this. You was my motherfucker for sure. Any time I had something to do I called you homeboy and no matter what we rode right then. You always said I was a homeboy not a home girl cause i was down just like the bros. We was family and trusted each other like it was ourselves so yeah I'm a little pissed at you homeboy you rode solo and it aint fair! I will forever love you and miss you homeboy. God got one of the good ones messing with you. Hold it down behind them pearly gates till I see you again........

He stood by my side for days making sure I ate because I didn’t have an appetite… he was the only one there when my world began to fall apart for days he helped me pick myself up and the one day we separate so I can go to parole he passed away… he didn’t have to do that he had no dog in the fight. But because we are friends he chose to…