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In memory of
Agustin Viadero Perez
August 15, 1945 - August 15, 2020
Aug 15, 1945 - Aug 15, 2020
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It is with a heavy and humbled heart that we seek help to raise the remaining funds for my father's funeral expenses.
We have managed to cover some of the expenses but not all and are currently working on various things at once to raise the money (food/baked good sales, rummage sales, etc.). We have exhausted other options and find ourselves at the mercy of other's generosity to see us through these difficult times.
BACKGROUND:
Agustin Viadero had been a healthy man all his life. Up until a month before his 75th birthday, he'd only ever set foot in a doctor's office less than a handful of times.
He had always been a friendly guy who chatted up anyone who crossed his path and made friends everywhere he went. He was a prankster who loved his family and especially loved kids and they loved him back.
A few years ago his personality began to change. Although he'd already been retired he used to love spending his time building things (he was a carpenter by trade and an avid reader). Suddenly we often found him sedentary, with no appetite and with a lack of interest in anything. He became quiet and withdrawn at times and in other instances was confrontational and even irrational.
He began losing weight and his demeanor showed no signs of improvement. We knew something wasn't right and we begged him to let us take him to a doctor but he refused. We sought professional help but without his consent, there was nothing we could do. Until very hot summer day this past July he was found in his car with the windows rolled up, wearing a sweatshirt, covered in a blanket despite outside temperature hitting close to 100. He seemed to be fading in and out of consciousness. Paramedics were called and he was rushed to the ER.
A medical examination and tests showed he had lesions in his brain that were life-threatening as the pressure in his brain was at a dangerous level. We were told he would need emergency brain surgery to remove them and relieve the pressure. Furthermore, he had tested positive for COVID and we could not be near him.
The neurologist explained that the lesions in his brain were responsible for his erratic behavior, delusions, aggressive outbursts and more that even if surgery was successful he'd likely have irreparable brain damage.
WE WERE SHOCKED. HE HAD BEEN SUFFERING A MENTAL ILLNESS AND WE DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE.
Our father who had always been healthy, never overweight, no known health issues was now hospitalized with COVID and facing life with brain damage, the extent of which we could not know. We had no idea how his day-to-day functioning would be affected.
The surgery went well and we had hope. We visited him through a window and did our best to cheer him up. He beat COVID but was now rail-thin and extremely weak. He remained hospitalized for 26 days as medical staff tried to get him strong again and able to eat. His delusions had caused him to be wary of everything and everyone. He thought the food was poisoned and for that reason was refusing to eat. He spoke of going back to Germany where he had a job waiting for him, of having close friends in the FBI, having children who were engineers and doctors, and a big house in Pasadena, CA - all delusions caused by his mental illness.
He began to make progress as his vitals remained stable and he slowly began to eat. He was transferred to a specialized rehab facility where he would get treatment for his mental illness and physical therapy to regain his strength. We were so hopeful that soon he'd be able to go home.
On August 14 the nurse reported that he'd had half of his lunch and half of his dinner. He'd asked for orange juice and was calm. We were elated. It was the best news we'd heard in years. Our prayers of getting the man we knew back seemed to be answered and the timing couldn't be better. His 75th bday would be the following day!
On August 15, my wife and I went to see him. Through the window we showed him a white board with messages of hope and love. We took him chocolage chip cookies (he loved those), new clothes, and chocolates. He looked at us and acknowledged that he understood when we told him we loved him.
We left full of hope and happier than we'd been in a long time. A few hours later a nurse called us that was on his death bed, taking his last breaths. We rushed to his side but by the time we got there he'd already passed.
No one is ever really ready to lose a loved one, especially a parent but when the loss comes at the heels of apparent recovery, its shocking.
WHY WE NEED HELP
With him having tested positive for COVID we were forced to quarantine ourselves to prevent further spreading the virus to others. My wife and I missed work and therefore had a loss of income. My stepdaughter had already been laid off and my other stepchildren are too young to work.
We're not a big family. I only have one sister who isn't working either. Her and her husband take care of our elderly mother and has a young child.
We've spent what little savings we had caring for our parents and have almost nothing left.
HOW WILL YOUR DONATIONS HELP
We have the cost of the plot covered (value around $8,000). Despite keeping funeral/burial arrangements to a minimum (nothing fancy - no flowers, no programs, etc.) the remaining cost is beyond what we can pay for.
The money will be spent to pay the mortuary/cemetery for final costs.
LASTLY
Arriving at the decision to share our story and ask for help was not easy. We would not be here asking for your help if we really didn't need it. Unfortunately, mortuaries apparently don't offer payment plans (we didn't know this) and the final and total balance is due 48 hrs prior to the service. We will continue to search for other ways to earn the money, request loans, etc. but we don't know that we can raise it all in time.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME. YOUR PRAYERS AND ANY DONATION YOU CAN SPARE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED. Contribute
We have managed to cover some of the expenses but not all and are currently working on various things at once to raise the money (food/baked good sales, rummage sales, etc.). We have exhausted other options and find ourselves at the mercy of other's generosity to see us through these difficult times.
BACKGROUND:
Agustin Viadero had been a healthy man all his life. Up until a month before his 75th birthday, he'd only ever set foot in a doctor's office less than a handful of times.
He had always been a friendly guy who chatted up anyone who crossed his path and made friends everywhere he went. He was a prankster who loved his family and especially loved kids and they loved him back.
A few years ago his personality began to change. Although he'd already been retired he used to love spending his time building things (he was a carpenter by trade and an avid reader). Suddenly we often found him sedentary, with no appetite and with a lack of interest in anything. He became quiet and withdrawn at times and in other instances was confrontational and even irrational.
He began losing weight and his demeanor showed no signs of improvement. We knew something wasn't right and we begged him to let us take him to a doctor but he refused. We sought professional help but without his consent, there was nothing we could do. Until very hot summer day this past July he was found in his car with the windows rolled up, wearing a sweatshirt, covered in a blanket despite outside temperature hitting close to 100. He seemed to be fading in and out of consciousness. Paramedics were called and he was rushed to the ER.
A medical examination and tests showed he had lesions in his brain that were life-threatening as the pressure in his brain was at a dangerous level. We were told he would need emergency brain surgery to remove them and relieve the pressure. Furthermore, he had tested positive for COVID and we could not be near him.
The neurologist explained that the lesions in his brain were responsible for his erratic behavior, delusions, aggressive outbursts and more that even if surgery was successful he'd likely have irreparable brain damage.
WE WERE SHOCKED. HE HAD BEEN SUFFERING A MENTAL ILLNESS AND WE DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE.
Our father who had always been healthy, never overweight, no known health issues was now hospitalized with COVID and facing life with brain damage, the extent of which we could not know. We had no idea how his day-to-day functioning would be affected.
The surgery went well and we had hope. We visited him through a window and did our best to cheer him up. He beat COVID but was now rail-thin and extremely weak. He remained hospitalized for 26 days as medical staff tried to get him strong again and able to eat. His delusions had caused him to be wary of everything and everyone. He thought the food was poisoned and for that reason was refusing to eat. He spoke of going back to Germany where he had a job waiting for him, of having close friends in the FBI, having children who were engineers and doctors, and a big house in Pasadena, CA - all delusions caused by his mental illness.
He began to make progress as his vitals remained stable and he slowly began to eat. He was transferred to a specialized rehab facility where he would get treatment for his mental illness and physical therapy to regain his strength. We were so hopeful that soon he'd be able to go home.
On August 14 the nurse reported that he'd had half of his lunch and half of his dinner. He'd asked for orange juice and was calm. We were elated. It was the best news we'd heard in years. Our prayers of getting the man we knew back seemed to be answered and the timing couldn't be better. His 75th bday would be the following day!
On August 15, my wife and I went to see him. Through the window we showed him a white board with messages of hope and love. We took him chocolage chip cookies (he loved those), new clothes, and chocolates. He looked at us and acknowledged that he understood when we told him we loved him.
We left full of hope and happier than we'd been in a long time. A few hours later a nurse called us that was on his death bed, taking his last breaths. We rushed to his side but by the time we got there he'd already passed.
No one is ever really ready to lose a loved one, especially a parent but when the loss comes at the heels of apparent recovery, its shocking.
WHY WE NEED HELP
With him having tested positive for COVID we were forced to quarantine ourselves to prevent further spreading the virus to others. My wife and I missed work and therefore had a loss of income. My stepdaughter had already been laid off and my other stepchildren are too young to work.
We're not a big family. I only have one sister who isn't working either. Her and her husband take care of our elderly mother and has a young child.
We've spent what little savings we had caring for our parents and have almost nothing left.
HOW WILL YOUR DONATIONS HELP
We have the cost of the plot covered (value around $8,000). Despite keeping funeral/burial arrangements to a minimum (nothing fancy - no flowers, no programs, etc.) the remaining cost is beyond what we can pay for.
The money will be spent to pay the mortuary/cemetery for final costs.
LASTLY
Arriving at the decision to share our story and ask for help was not easy. We would not be here asking for your help if we really didn't need it. Unfortunately, mortuaries apparently don't offer payment plans (we didn't know this) and the final and total balance is due 48 hrs prior to the service. We will continue to search for other ways to earn the money, request loans, etc. but we don't know that we can raise it all in time.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME. YOUR PRAYERS AND ANY DONATION YOU CAN SPARE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED. Contribute
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