Lost my love last November. 30 years. I don't know how to cope with his loss.
How Do I Cope?
Posted by Hazel Nunes on June 29, 2023, 9:48 p.m. PDT
Dear Hazel, you have begun a journey that none of us want to travel. It is now 2069 days since my beloved went to heaven...I found him at 4:18 am on the sofa in our family room where he appeared to have just nodded off to sleep. He had Leukemia but contracted Pneumonia 5 days after being hospitalized and he was sent home to Hospice on New Year's Eve 2019. He died on January 9, 2020 and 8 weeks later COVID-19 shut down the world and I was alone for the first time in 44 years-am still a train wreck 4 days out of 7, but it's better than being unable to even get out of bed for days at a time. I finally found a grief therapist in September, 2020 via telemed. I now have sessions once a month (instead of once a week) and am on medication. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and I also take anti-anxiety meds. I still burst into tears unexpectedly, but it's normal. Everyone grieves differently and there is NO TIME LIMIT. Grief is the result of a deep LOVE....give yourself time,
and do talk to someone--priest, counselor, therapist etc. I send you love and a hug. Gloria
My heart goes out to you. The pain can be unbearable at times. I just lost my husband on May 28,2023. Just 4 weeks ago. I know what your going through. Some days I can 't do anything but lay there and just cry.
People keep telling me it will gdt eSier in time. I cant see how.
I apologize ,you asked a question and somehow i turned it around making it all about me. I cant see h
Just know this, your not alone and neither am I. There are many woman out there suffering the same as we are. I just feel lucky that we can come here and express ourselves.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a terrible thing, grief. I also lost a husband in November, over 7 years ago. Yet it could have been yesterday as far as how well I've coped with his death. I live alone too a d for the first time in 40 years. It is not for the faint of heart of which I am a life long member. Only one thing has ever given me some temporary relief and that is spending time with family and friends.
Don't isolate yourself. I am disabled and in pain most days so I am alone a lot just wishing I could see my grandchildren at their sports events, or take them shopping and a million other things with my precious children and brothers and sisters, etc.
Well, that's it; my 2 cents.
I wish I knew. Lost mine March 7th. I've been a wreck. Lucky to have friends that won't let me completely disappear. My days are pretty dark but I've been finding bright moments once in a while in the shadows. I try to remember that if a moment is possible then there may be some thing resembling light in some tunnel somewhere. I know I'll never stop hurting. I know its going to be painful every day I just hope I can find a way to continue through it. Looking for the sparks of light along the way.
