I don’t know if anyone has a strategy or a way to help, but since my husband died, holidays have been extremely difficult for me. (He died March 5th) I usually get a wave of grief and then I move on after maybe a few days or a week but since Mother’s Day I have struggled so much and feel like I am so deep in my grief. It doesn’t help that there have been a lot of family birthdays this month as well and all of it is just keeping me bogged down. The day before Mother’s Day, I found out an old church friend passed away, so I don’t know if that is also causing me to grieve harder, but I have been in deep with this grief since then. I just want to know how everyone else copes with it or how to emotionally prepare for other holidays. I know the next one will be Father’s Day and I am dreading it. I unfortunately cannot hide away in my room because I have a 2 year old daughter who very much needs her mother now that daddy is gone. Any advice would be great. Thanks in advance.
Holiday struggles
Posted by Anonymous on May 26, 2025, 11:02 a.m. PDT
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on December 3rd, 2021, after making the heartbreaking decision to remove him from life support. People said it would get easier with time, but the truth is, it hasn’t. The pain is still there, especially during the holidays—they're the hardest. Just know you’re not alone in this. I truly understand what you’re going through, and I’m here if you ever need someone to talk to.
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Angela, I certainly feel your pain! I'm 74 years old and loss my first husband in April 1993 after 24 years of marriage. In March of 2023, I loss my second husband after 22 years of marriage. And yes, every time their another death of a family member or friend, the grief of your closest losses will revisit your spirit. I'm a Christian and my faith in God, prayers and meditation are what keep me focused and keep me pushing onward. Even so, there're times I get overwhelmed with thoughts of my losses, wanting see them again, missing them dearly, not wanting to be alone, etc. Sometimes, silent tears fall. But, I shake off the memories before they completely overwhelm me. Other times, being deep in thoughts, I can't escape the guttural sounds that comes from deep within my soul as grief overwhelms me! So, for me, I've learn there's no time limit for overcoming the loss of a loved one or the ensuing grief. I've heard "grief gets better with time." I can say, I've learn how to "manage grief better with time." When someone's been in our lives for years, and have made a significant impact on it; they leave an "imprint" on your spirit and soul, good or bad! So no, I don't go around others with a sad face, moping or crying. I save my pain and sorrow moments for private conversations with God! I pour out my most venerable feeling to Him, and I never fail to feel better after these kinds of sessions with God. I will keep you in my prayers! my email is goodsuccess9@hotmail.com
