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I miss him
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2021, 6:29 a.m. PST
I miss my husband ..my best friend so much .. 10 months and it feels like he has just gone to the grocery store and waves see you just now 😔😔
Oh my goodness louise. Thank you for reaching out. Your message makes me cry. I feel the same way. I keep waiting for him to come home.
God bless you today !!
I miss my husband ..my best friend so much .. 10 months and it feels like he has just gone to the grocery store and waves see you just now 😔😔
I know how you feel. I lost my husband in June. Every minute of every day I feel his avsence. Oh, I loved him so much. We never had children and I have no family where I live. I feel so alone.
Oh man yes! Its so surreal that he isnt here physically and I feel so much the same that you mentioned, waiting for him to come home from the store that I feel he is already here. All the time.
You’re never ready for something like this. Even when you know it’s coming.
My husband had five knee surgeries in 2019. The infected artificial knee had to be removed. We never did get his leg fused, because he got breast cancer in 2020, had a mastectomy and radiation, then broke his hip in 2021 and died in June from bone marrow cancer probably caused by the radiation.
I try not to think or talk about him. If I do, I break down. Everyone says there’s no way around it, you just have to go through it. I don’t want to go through it. I don’t want to cry! I cried so much when he was dying and in the weeks after. It is physically and emotionally too much for me. So I stuff my emotions. I function better if I don’t think or talk about him, and keep busy or distract myself. Even though he’s always on my mind. I did cry last night when I was talking to my sister on the phone. She brought up the subject of my husband. I can’t go through that too much.
I have three 12“ x 12“ x 6“ plastic boxes that I put all the cards etc. in from when he was dying & from the past three years when he was in a wheelchair. I can’t look at the contents of those boxes, but I put everything in them.
Am I the only one who does better if they stuff their emotions & don’t want to talk about their spouse? They say everyone grieves differently, so no judgment here, but I’m just wondering.
I would like to find an online widow support group. Suggestions, anyone? Or better yet, an actual support group near where I live. I’m going to look into the online support group Soaring Spirits International. They seem to be very comprehensive & active.
Stay strong everyone.
My husband passed in his sleep… 11/27/21…finding him cold with no breath just about killed me. I really have not-stopped crying since Saturday. I want him to have the best and i cant even afford the cremation… i just want him back. We were married 17 years…14years before he had the cardiac arrest,then after for 3 more loving years with an anoxic brain injury and LAS and in a wheelchair… i thought we would be in rocking chairs on a porch together in our 80s and 90s…. I dont know how to handle this. I am also kidless and lost my dad in may, mom 12 years ago… alone. i want him back.
My husband died April 29, 2020. At the beginning of the pandemic. We had two months from diagnosis to death. He had cancer that was in his brain and spinal fluid. He was such a brilliant man and to watch him lose the capacity to use his brain was so horrifying. We were able to have him home when he passed. April 28 is my birthday and he was there for our traditional dinner and movie in the living room followed by cake. He was not conscious. He had taken a very bad turn on the 26th. But we got him home and in our bed.
One of the hardest things is that loss is still right there - right in the pit of my stomach - weighing in my heart - we have never been able to have any kind of service for him - Covid was ramping up when he died. Every time I turned around I was breaking a rule I didn’t know existed.
We have three sons. Two live in town, one a couple of hours away. The youngest, the one most emotionally connected to me is the one that lives away. This last thanksgiving was the first time he was able to be here in person since he left after his dad died. That was nice. He stays here when he visits. But now the house is quiet again.
I keep hearing it gets easier. But how could it? I am still stuck back there in April 2020. It just gets harder. I have had things that have kept me going because it is something to look forward to - but those are gone. There is nothing. That man was my best friend for 36 years. He protected me from the world and the world from me. Lately I fell like I am running into brick walls everywhere. How could it ever get better? I am looking at a life with no one to hold me, to hug me, to be there when I fall, or when I succeed …
My husband died April 29, 2020. At the beginning of the pandemic. We had two months from diagnosis to death. He had cancer that was in his brain and spinal fluid. He was such a brilliant man and to watch him lose the capacity to use his brain was so horrifying. We were able to have him home when he passed. April 28 is my birthday and he was there for our traditional dinner and movie in the living room followed by cake. He was not conscious. He had taken a very bad turn on the 26th. But we got him home and in our bed.
One of the hardest things is that loss is still right there - right in the pit of my stomach - weighing in my heart - we have never been able to have any kind of service for him - Covid was ramping up when he died. Every time I turned around I was breaking a rule I didn’t know existed.
We have three sons. Two live in town, one a couple of hours away. The youngest, the one most emotionally connected to me is the one that lives away. This last thanksgiving was the first time he was able to be here in person since he left after his dad died. That was nice. He stays here when he visits. But now the house is quiet again.
I keep hearing it gets easier. But how could it? I am still stuck back there in April 2020. It just gets harder. I have had things that have kept me going because it is something to look forward to - but those are gone. There is nothing. That man was my best friend for 36 years. He protected me from the world and the world from me. Lately I fell like I am running into brick walls everywhere. How could it ever get better? I am looking at a life with no one to hold me, to hug me, to be there when I fall, or when I succeed …
One of the hardest things is that loss is still right there - right in the pit of my stomach - weighing in my heart - we have never been able to have any kind of service for him - Covid was ramping up when he died. Every time I turned around I was breaking a rule I didn’t know existed.
We have three sons. Two live in town, one a couple of hours away. The youngest, the one most emotionally connected to me is the one that lives away. This last thanksgiving was the first time he was able to be here in person since he left after his dad died. That was nice. He stays here when he visits. But now the house is quiet again.
I keep hearing it gets easier. But how could it? I am still stuck back there in April 2020. It just gets harder. I have had things that have kept me going because it is something to look forward to - but those are gone. There is nothing. That man was my best friend for 36 years. He protected me from the world and the world from me. Lately I fell like I am running into brick walls everywhere. How could it ever get better? I am looking at a life with no one to hold me, to hug me, to be there when I fall, or when I succeed …
I understand more than most but its so new…i hear it hurts forever but gets easier to bear…
You’re never ready for something like this. Even when you know it’s coming.
My husband had five knee surgeries in 2019. The infected artificial knee had to be removed. We never did get his leg fused, because he got breast cancer in 2020, had a mastectomy and radiation, then broke his hip in 2021 and died in June from bone marrow cancer probably caused by the radiation.
I try not to think or talk about him. If I do, I break down. Everyone says there’s no way around it, you just have to go through it. I don’t want to go through it. I don’t want to cry! I cried so much when he was dying and in the weeks after. It is physically and emotionally too much for me. So I stuff my emotions. I function better if I don’t think or talk about him, and keep busy or distract myself. Even though he’s always on my mind. I did cry last night when I was talking to my sister on the phone. She brought up the subject of my husband. I can’t go through that too much.
I have three 12“ x 12“ x 6“ plastic boxes that I put all the cards etc. in from when he was dying & from the past three years when he was in a wheelchair. I can’t look at the contents of those boxes, but I put everything in them.
Am I the only one who does better if they stuff their emotions & don’t want to talk about their spouse? They say everyone grieves differently, so no judgment here, but I’m just wondering.
I would like to find an online widow support group. Suggestions, anyone? Or better yet, an actual support group near where I live. I’m going to look into the online support group Soaring Spirits International. They seem to be very comprehensive & active.
Stay strong everyone.
My husband had five knee surgeries in 2019. The infected artificial knee had to be removed. We never did get his leg fused, because he got breast cancer in 2020, had a mastectomy and radiation, then broke his hip in 2021 and died in June from bone marrow cancer probably caused by the radiation.
I try not to think or talk about him. If I do, I break down. Everyone says there’s no way around it, you just have to go through it. I don’t want to go through it. I don’t want to cry! I cried so much when he was dying and in the weeks after. It is physically and emotionally too much for me. So I stuff my emotions. I function better if I don’t think or talk about him, and keep busy or distract myself. Even though he’s always on my mind. I did cry last night when I was talking to my sister on the phone. She brought up the subject of my husband. I can’t go through that too much.
I have three 12“ x 12“ x 6“ plastic boxes that I put all the cards etc. in from when he was dying & from the past three years when he was in a wheelchair. I can’t look at the contents of those boxes, but I put everything in them.
Am I the only one who does better if they stuff their emotions & don’t want to talk about their spouse? They say everyone grieves differently, so no judgment here, but I’m just wondering.
I would like to find an online widow support group. Suggestions, anyone? Or better yet, an actual support group near where I live. I’m going to look into the online support group Soaring Spirits International. They seem to be very comprehensive & active.
Stay strong everyone.
Hello from a recently mourning widow. I think your idea for widow support is perfect. Please let me know if you have any more progress on the idea. These holiday moments have been brutal. I'm so sad and have mourning in a way i do not understand. Im breaking into tears at the most random times. Somedays all i do is cry. is this normal?
My husband died April 29, 2020. At the beginning of the pandemic. We had two months from diagnosis to death. He had cancer that was in his brain and spinal fluid. He was such a brilliant man and to watch him lose the capacity to use his brain was so horrifying. We were able to have him home when he passed. April 28 is my birthday and he was there for our traditional dinner and movie in the living room followed by cake. He was not conscious. He had taken a very bad turn on the 26th. But we got him home and in our bed.
One of the hardest things is that loss is still right there - right in the pit of my stomach - weighing in my heart - we have never been able to have any kind of service for him - Covid was ramping up when he died. Every time I turned around I was breaking a rule I didn’t know existed.
We have three sons. Two live in town, one a couple of hours away. The youngest, the one most emotionally connected to me is the one that lives away. This last thanksgiving was the first time he was able to be here in person since he left after his dad died. That was nice. He stays here when he visits. But now the house is quiet again.
I keep hearing it gets easier. But how could it? I am still stuck back there in April 2020. It just gets harder. I have had things that have kept me going because it is something to look forward to - but those are gone. There is nothing. That man was my best friend for 36 years. He protected me from the world and the world from me. Lately I fell like I am running into brick walls everywhere. How could it ever get better? I am looking at a life with no one to hold me, to hug me, to be there when I fall, or when I succeed …
One of the hardest things is that loss is still right there - right in the pit of my stomach - weighing in my heart - we have never been able to have any kind of service for him - Covid was ramping up when he died. Every time I turned around I was breaking a rule I didn’t know existed.
We have three sons. Two live in town, one a couple of hours away. The youngest, the one most emotionally connected to me is the one that lives away. This last thanksgiving was the first time he was able to be here in person since he left after his dad died. That was nice. He stays here when he visits. But now the house is quiet again.
I keep hearing it gets easier. But how could it? I am still stuck back there in April 2020. It just gets harder. I have had things that have kept me going because it is something to look forward to - but those are gone. There is nothing. That man was my best friend for 36 years. He protected me from the world and the world from me. Lately I fell like I am running into brick walls everywhere. How could it ever get better? I am looking at a life with no one to hold me, to hug me, to be there when I fall, or when I succeed …
Ring Cruse bereavemeent conselling and they will help. First steps are always the hardest but they will put you on a path of help
My husband passed in his sleep… 11/27/21…finding him cold with no breath just about killed me. I really have not-stopped crying since Saturday. I want him to have the best and i cant even afford the cremation… i just want him back. We were married 17 years…14years before he had the cardiac arrest,then after for 3 more loving years with an anoxic brain injury and LAS and in a wheelchair… i thought we would be in rocking chairs on a porch together in our 80s and 90s…. I dont know how to handle this. I am also kidless and lost my dad in may, mom 12 years ago… alone. i want him back.
God Bless you. I lost my husband almost 6 years ago. I miss him still very much and still carry on conversations with him. I think it keeps the sound of his voice in my head. I worry sometimes about forgetting the sound of his voice. I still cry, but the bouts aren't so exhausting as before. Seek comfort in your friends, church, or a support group. You don't need to be alone.
My husband of 52+ years had a heart attack while I was driving the car on January 8, 2022. It was horrific. I did my best to get help and call 911. But he was unresponsive too long. He was in a coma with severe brain damage for 8 days. Our wills both stated do not recessitate so I let him go on Wed January 12th and I felt his heart stop beating on January 16th at 12:55am.
Grieving is the perfect word for how I feel. Numb is how my body feels. No feeling....just numb. I guess it will take time to feel anything again. He was cremated so he is in a way still in my home and I can take to him. It helps.
Hi Diana. I lost my wife on December after suffering a brain tumour for 8 months. My advice is to download the 'stages of grief' and it will help you understand why you are feeling as you are at times in the future. It is said that everyone goes through these stages and it will help you overcome your pain. In one way it may help you understand that whilst you are grieving, your husband did not suffer in any way. My wife was strong and determined to beat her cancer, but we all really knew that there would only be one outcome. And in the end she suffered greatly... Whilst i was grateful for a few extra months I now feel as though she should never had to go through it as she did; and that hurts me deeply. I am passing through the stages of grief (the anger at losing her, the guilt of feeling that I could not really help her and remembering the times when I ask myself; did I do enough, was it my fault etc.). You are experiencing what everyone goes through when losing a loved one. Be easy on yourself and (i know this will be difficult) put those bad moments to the back of your mind and concentrate on those most woderful times you have had with him. when you talk to him tell him how lovely they were. Yes, tears will flow but that will help, believe me. May I also say that at my wifes funeral, in my tribute to her I played a song by Queen, called 'who wants to live forever' which in my mind depicts how much love we had for each other and that it should never stop. I play it daily and it is a comfort to me even though it brings the tears. It may not be your kind of music and if not (then remember and play something you both enjoyed listening to). My thoughts are with you x
Hi James, It saddens me to hear how your wife suffered. I lost my baby sister, Jeannette to brain cancer back in 2000. I will take your advice and look up the stages....but...I feel everyone grieves in their own personal way. Hospice has told me I have 13 mos of free bereavement counseling and I did make an appointment for this Thursday. We'll see if that helps me??? The hardest part for me. Is that my husband was very healthy and active. He kayaked, cycled, he was a fly-fisherman and just prior to his death he said he felt he did n't have much time left. That's why I'm so saddened.
Thank you .. I wish you well in your journey in which ever way it takes you .. but you are not alone .. and you have one person who knows how you really feel.
