I'm only 26. I've lost grandparents, great aunts and uncles, friends, cousins, pets that were like children to me. It hurts so bad, just like the first times. I can't stand it. Does it ever get easier? What about when it's someone closer, that I have thousands of memories with? If this hurts this badly, what will I do then? I don't think I could ever be ready for something like that. Tell me it gets easier, please. I almost don't even care if it's a lie. There's too much always left unsaid or unseen or unshared. I feel crushed under it all. Regret and guilt. How do you take it? How can any of us take it all our lives?
Does it ever get easier?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2022, 3:44 p.m. PST
Hi Anonymous.
Actually, yes, it does get easier, but it takes time. Every loss is different and takes a different amount of time. Our grieving is very important for each and every loss. I still miss my father, mother, dog, brother, nephew and my best friend. But for each one that passed, I dealt with it differently because every relationship is different. Some are harder than others of course. Because I was able to be with my mom when she passed, it was much easier on me afterwards. I spent those last few days with her in a beautiful hospice environment with my sisters and I was able to say my goodbyes. But when my father passed, I wasn't there and we were very close. But I knew the moment he passed because I felt my spirit meet with his and I said goodbye. When my dog had to be euthanized, I cried and cried because she loved me so unconditionally, but she was ready to go to doggie heaven. My brother's death was very difficult because he was my best friend and I didn't speak to him for a few weeks because he wasn't doing very well. He died alone in a hotel room and it broke my heart. But, I also know that he's at peace now with our mom and dad and I'm happy for him. When my best friend died I was okay because she was suffering a long time from cancer so it was a blessing that she was no longer in pain and now with our Lord and Savior. When my first boyfriend (when I was a young adult) killed himself, it just about killed me. I was already married but it hurt for a very long time until I finally erected an altar for him at a place he and I went camping at and I let him go. It also helped complete my healing when I finally visited his gravesite. So, yes, you will find eventually that with each person or pet that passes, you will need to go through it and grieve and let them go and make peach with yourself and let go of any guilt and remember the good times you had. I hope this helps. God bless you.
