I’m so very sorry for your loss. I don’t know the circumstances behind the loss of your son, but I know the deep pain that you feel. I lost my son to suicide 3-4-2022 and the past year has felt like such a soul crushing experience. I have felt as if I literally had a weight on my back, and I came to realize this as grief. The pain I felt I won’t lie hasn’t gone away, it has however become more bearable. I miss my son every single day. I long to talk to him and tell him how important he is and was to me. I grieve him every time I open my eyes each day and pray to see him in my dreams. That being said, I know my son is in a safe place now. I feel he is at peace and I realize it is me in this deep hell of should have could have would haves.. I can tell you it becomes more bearable and you can and will find yourself smiling again. I can tell you there are subtile signs that he is still around and just not on this realm. I can tell you that your son wants more than anything to let you know that he wants to to move on and be happy. I can tell you all this with 100% assurance and also tell you that it’s easier said than done. What I can assure you of is that the pain you are feeling right this moment, will get lighter and lighter. No mother or father should have to bury their children, but time will help. Take it day by day and sit with your grief. It’s the only path to healing. God bless.
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May you find peace , I know how hard it is I lost my son July 15 the the pain is more than I can handle at times , may God bring you comfort , sending hugs
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on Dec. 16, 2023, 12:22 p.m. PST
Quoted Post — on July 29, 2023 at 8:18 p.m. PDT,
Debra Pennetta
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May you find peace , I know how hard it is I lost my son July 15 the the pain is more than I can handle at times , may God bring you comfort , sending hugs
Quoted Post — on June 25, 2023 at 5:36 p.m. PDT,
Michelle Ehrstine
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I’m so very sorry for your loss. I don’t know the circumstances behind the loss of your son, but I know the deep pain that you feel. I lost my son to suicide 3-4-2022 and the past year has felt like such a soul crushing experience. I have felt as if I literally had a weight on my back, and I came to realize this as grief. The pain I felt I won’t lie hasn’t gone away, it has however become more bearable. I miss my son every single day. I long to talk to him and tell him how important he is and was to me. I grieve him every time I open my eyes each day and pray to see him in my dreams. That being said, I know my son is in a safe place now. I feel he is at peace and I realize it is me in this deep hell of should have could have would haves.. I can tell you it becomes more bearable and you can and will find yourself smiling again. I can tell you there are subtile signs that he is still around and just not on this realm. I can tell you that your son wants more than anything to let you know that he wants to to move on and be happy. I can tell you all this with 100% assurance and also tell you that it’s easier said than done. What I can assure you of is that the pain you are feeling right this moment, will get lighter and lighter. No mother or father should have to bury their children, but time will help. Take it day by day and sit with your grief. It’s the only path to healing. God bless.
Thank you I read your post and im very sorry for your loss . My son passed January 11, 2024 to brain cancer and I know he’s in Heaven and he doesn’t have to deal with this ugly disease . I too have cancer, whats a mother to do. My heart is so broken I know he would say mommy don’t cry I got you that’s the man and son I have . My son Joel’ Sr is leaving. 2 beautiful son’s I hope we can continue to be part of their young life’s , I love them so much .
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I am so sorry for your loss, there are no words to explain the way a mother feels when you lose a child, my son was simply sitting at the bus stop when two cars drove up and shot him three times in the heart for no reason, it was July 15th and it still feels like it was just yesterday, some days I feel like I just can't get through each day and I wish I could go be with him, I hope the pain in your heart and gets easier and may God cure your cancer, I always try to find a way to keep going and I turn to my grandkids a lot, their love and happiness push me through this, I hope you can find a way to find just a little happiness and may God be with you
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on June 22, 2024, 3:25 p.m. PDT
Quoted Post — on Jan. 22, 2024 at 5:38 a.m. PST,
Debra Pennetta
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I am so sorry for your loss, there are no words to explain the way a mother feels when you lose a child, my son was simply sitting at the bus stop when two cars drove up and shot him three times in the heart for no reason, it was July 15th and it still feels like it was just yesterday, some days I feel like I just can't get through each day and I wish I could go be with him, I hope the pain in your heart and gets easier and may God cure your cancer, I always try to find a way to keep going and I turn to my grandkids a lot, their love and happiness push me through this, I hope you can find a way to find just a little happiness and may God be with you
I am now at 1 year with him gone and I feel my pain is even worse the reality that he is gone is so much like a knife going through your body. I get through each day knowing that my son was a good man with a beautiful heart he was loved by so many and I am his biggest fan a mother that lives through there children is someone not to try and rattle our faith and love of our children. I do feel your pain. Each day will be a struggle, I think at times can I just go with my son. I am on this world to let people know that they are not alone there lost loved one loved them and forever will be with you. I for now , like you must get up let the world know if there was any kind of in justice to my child or any child this will be corrected and not let go till it is. I live each day now saying I am the architect of my fate, I will make this world part of me again and I will be ready at anytime to be with my loved ones. Thank you LD
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July 15th will be one year that my son was murdered and they investigators have still not arrested anyone and I'm just getting the runaround, this makes it even harder to accept my son's passing, it's very hard to understand how one day your child is here in the next day he's gone, I still think every day he's going to walk through my door, sometimes I feel my heart filled with so much pain that I asked God to take me, I do take it one day at a time as people tell me to do, and I do have other children and grandchildren that need me so I do try to stay strong, I just know that if I could change places with my son and have him back here I definitely would , he deserve to live a life have a wife ,children, but it was all taken away from some careless juveniles who have no respect for human life, I lost my oldest son in 2020 my youngest son and 2023, and it still feels like yesterday, my heart goes out to each and every parent who is going through the same heartfelt pain that I am, I will hold on to my son's memories till the day I can be with them💙💙
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How do you even go on. The pain you must go through. Wow. You are so strong. You give me hope. That were gonna be ok In our loss. It just don't feel like it's going to be any time soon .. grief is so permanent. Right now. It's been. A week. And my son had cancer. Bone Sarcoma. Broken femur is how we found out. Tried to save leg. That didn't work. In the form of a tumor on the metal to bone area. So they took leg. And the cancer metastasized in the lung. 6 months later. 6months after that he succumbed to that....37years old. I will truly miss him. I miss him now.
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I am so sorry for your loss, grief is such a long process, sometimes it's impossible to get through, I lean towards my son's, pictures and think of his memories and I pray to God to please give me strength to go on,another day ,sometimes it's more and I can bear, I'm not strong I believe I have a lot of faith that helps get me through, my other children help me through this and my grandbabies, but at night when I'm alone I feel like my heart is gone ,,empty, and I cried myself to sleep many nights ,,I keep pictures close by, and I talked to my boys constantly and hope that they hear me in heaven, try to stay strong , and be around people that love you, and always know that your son is watching over you,, I do believe that our angels are always with us ❤️
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Aww that was beautiful thank you. Sometimes I think I'm caring on being a babbling cry baby Maybe I should just grow. Up. And dry it up. And just get over it But I find it very hard It be a long time before I get there to that stage.... But till then I will keep talking to him. And praying he's hearing me. This is the hardest life situation I've been in. In my 65 years. And all I have to say is wow......
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All of us who are grieving will probably always cry there's always going to be that time where the sorrow hits us sometimes harder than others, but it's okay to cry, our hearts are hurting, the loss of a child is something we never ever expect to happen, my heart goes out to you, and I'm always here to talk with you, stay strong and remember when you are sad to think of the good times with your boy that's what I do 💕
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