My son Ryan, 38 years old, died from a drug overdose. The hardest part of all of this, is I wasn't allowed to see him, before I had him buried. Rita Curtiss
My son, Ryan
Posted by Rita Curtiss on Oct. 16, 2021, 11:54 a.m. PDT
I’m so sorry Rita. My son ended his life in June after a long battle with mental illness. He lived in TX and I live in KY. I last saw him in December 2020 on Holiday visit. It is so hard to say goodbye when you don’t really get to say good bye. You will be in my prayers. ❤️
Rita.... I have no idea why my son died or how. I did see him before they took him for donor, then cremation. The funeral home wanted $100.00 for a ID viewing, which is minutes, less than 5. My heart said yes, my mind said no. I understand your hurt. I don't know of anything I could say to take away your pain.
I know exactly your pain Rita! My son Victor died 3 weeks ago few days after his 31st birthday from a drug overdose. I know it wasn't a suicide act but more frustrating is that all his friends including his twin brother knew he is into heavy stuff but but didn't say anything for years. I feel like I lost a war without even going into battle. It is hard to look in his brother and his friends eyes knowing that because their stupid immature bonding my son paid the ultimate sacrifice!
I just read this I just realized what this website consists of I'm so very sorry my thoughts and prayers are with you and I just want you to know that. I almost said that I can relate but I can't relate exactly to losing a child I didn't want to be disrespectful I almost said that but I would have been wrong for that I do know how you feel to an extent I know how you feel when it comes to losing someone that you deeply deeply love because you read my story and you know I lost my fiance after a short battle with glioblastoma. I just want you to know if you ever need to talk to anyone then I'm here to talk and there's lots of times that I need to talk to someone but in all reality there's not really many people that I don't want to say don't care I just want to say I don't think that they understand fully maybe I don't know but I do want you to know I don't know you personally but I love you and I love every single person out there that has to go through this madness and there's no way anyone can explain how it feels to lose someone that there's a love inside for that person that we don't have a love for anyone else in that type of way for. Me I don't know how it feels to lose a child that I know how it feels to lose the woman that I have two very young sons of it so I can relate. As you know we have a 15-week-old son and a 16 month old son. And you know something I've come to learn that a lot of the better people in the world are drug addicts, or recovering drug addicts I'm a recovering drug addict and when I wrote my little paragraph earlier about being a recovering addict and about her being recovering addicts before she passed I was kind of ashamed to even put that post on there because I didn't know what people would think about me or us rather I didn't know what they would say but these days I really try not to put too much thought into worrying about how people feel about me like you hopefully you don't worry about what people feel about you or your son because there are no better than him they're no better than you and no one's any better than anyone and the only reason I'm saying in any of this is because my father has always judged me for being a drug addict and I'm I've struggled with drugs for 26 years. I'm not trying to ramble on I'm just trying to I guess say that I never met your son but I'm 100% certain he was a genuine person and I just bet he was a caring person and I know for a fact that he would help anybody even if it was him giving his last dollar to somebody or him giving away his jacket so someone else could be warm or him letting a homeless person stay with him because he knew it was too cold outside or something like that and if I say anything you don't think is right or you think is rude then please tell me. And if so I apologize in advance I've gone kind of crazy ever since I've lost her I just lost her January 19th of 2022 so it's brand new and I get confused and I ramble on and I do things that I used to never do like get on these sites and I read a lot of stories about people and I got so much love for all of you and I just want you to know that. And if you know anyone that I can get with that might know something about raising brain cancer awareness or something or will you please let me know or will you please give them my name or something I don't know if you know my full name. "Brian Hicks" that's my name once again God bless you and I know your son is in heaven and I know he's okay they're up there together smiling down at us I bet I sure hope so, I'm going to be quiet now I just think wow someone to talk to I usually don't have anyone to talk to because I don't have any friends. #Godblessthelordisguidingallofus
Dear Rita, Brian, Brenda and Horia - I just lost my son unexpectedly two (2) days before my Birthday. He lived in NY and I am 1500 miles away. When I found out he was in ICU due to a massive Coronary arrest, I immediately called the Hospital only to find out he had died ONE MINUTE prior to my call. He was the child of my soul. My daughter disowned me 10 years ago & I have lost my Granddaughters as well. She also has my sons ashes so I am unable to bury him here in the state where he was born and grew up. It is such a nightmare to lose a child. No parent should experience the loss of a child. He is the 2nd son I have lost. I must tell all of you that prayer and my relationship with God is my saving grace. Going to Church and being part of a Community of people who care and are comforting have helped so very much. If I am unable to receive his ashes, then I plan on having a Memorial Service for him. Additionally, my older brother lost his wife of 35 years two (2) days after I lost my Son. I was very close to her. He had also lost his daughter in March. She was three (3) months older than mine. It's been a very rough year for my family. I want you all to know I will tuck all of you into my daily prayers. If we all pray for each other, I know we will begin to see wonderful results. Also, Brian there is a live grief support group over video chat you can join. The link is on this page. That should help you TREMENDOUSLY. You will be able to share your thoughts and feelings with people you can actually see and talk to and also make friends with. I wish you the very best. Blessings and prayers to you all.