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John (center) with brothers B…
Sodus Bay, New York, USA
John (center) with brothers Barry (right) and Todd (left)
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We spent the summer of 1970 t…
970, Switzerland
We spent the summer of 1970 touring western Europe with Mom strictly following guidance from Arthur Frommer's "Europe on $5 a Day." What she failed to understand was that the $5.00/day was a "per-person" budget, not for an entire family, so thankfully our resourceful parents had networked with enough distant friends and relatives such that most took pity on us and provided food and shelter along our route. — with John, Barry, Todd Hart F and Mom
Justin Kelley
2026, Bernardston, MA, USA

This is less of a story and more of a testament to John's impact. My elder son, Walter (8), has been at Full Circle for two years. During this time, John became a north star for him. What John said and did impacted my son tremendously. This relationship instilled a sense of inner well-being in my son, as John embraced all aspects of him. When my son would explode with excitement, John would recognize the experience, honor it, and simultaneously offer a quiet, grounding presence. When my son was confused and frustrated at school, John would provide quiet reassurance that the learning would come. When my son was overwhelmed, John would bend down and assure him that this, too, would pass. What John offered our son is what every parent desires for their children — someone who embraces them with love, with care, with dignity.

I lost my own father two years ago to a rare bone marrow disorder. We were close. It was hard. Yet this loss somehow feels more intense. John was a beacon of certainty for my family — the assurance that our son was on the right path. To say John will be missed is an understatement. The pain of this sadness will be with us for many years to come.

And, to John directly: thank you, my friend, for all you did for our family and so many others.

Jiminy peak reunion, planned …
2014, Deerfield, MA, USA
Jiminy peak reunion, planned by Elen Post Foster with John, Caleb Shulman, Rebecca Aronson, Elen Post-Foster, and Emily Katz
John Friends, John Taylor, St…
2019, Ouro Preto, State of Minas Gerais, Brazil
John Friends, John Taylor, Steve Taft and I squeezed into this car with the father of a student who John and Mary Ellen knew from Deerfield . We found the family at a bazaar where they sold a vast variety of items that they made at their studio. When we walked up to the booth at the bazaar, they insisted on bringing us to their home and feeding us. They showed us the studio and insisted we each have an item from it. Sh
At vail the ski group who built the jump/ranp into the back bowls, also “played” like we were in a James Bond  movie, chasing each other down the mountain on skis, always seeking the “secret nuclear button push thing” famous for James Bond  movies. Here is John making some kind of statement in what sounds like a Russian accent.
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What sad news to hear about John's passing, one of the original Drafters! He lefts us way too soon.  All my love and thoughts go to Mary Ellen, Ellie, and Caleb.  Mary Ellen and John were some of our first friends when we arrived at Deerfield.  They lived in Mather and we lived in Scaife.  I have fond memories of spending time together before and after we started having children.  John knew how to enjoy life.  His passing makes me realize how every day is so precious.  Hang-in there and lean on each other for strength.  Love from all the de Bords.
John was my favorite teacher at full circle. Once when my family was going through a difficult time he came to our house with a big pot of homemade potato leak soup and sat with me for some time. In my childhood John was certainly one of the more impactful adults I had around me. I am grateful to have had him as a teacher, and I’m sending my love to Ellie and Caleb. I know how hard losing your Father is. ❤️
My first trip to Deerfield to…
My first trip to Deerfield to visit John and Family
I was so sorry to receive this news, I spent many hours with John pedaling over the hills and back roads of Franklin county during our yearly ride at the D2R2. John loved his family and was so proud of his kids. Along our ride we would encounter former and current students holding signs and ringing bells for Mr Friends. I like to think that is how John passed through this life, touching the lives of others. 
Barb's 70 th
2021, LeRoy Island, Huron, NY, USA

Full Circle circa 2010-2014….John was one of the most solid figures in my older kids’ lives and the way he showed up for them meant the world to me.  

Many wonderful and important memories  

So much love from Robin, Judan, Mylo, and Miles 

We have had the honor of know…
We have had the honor of knowing John for the past 5 years.  He was simply an amazing man,  Of great character! He was always welcoming with a warm smile on some very cold days on the Mt.  A true role model for not only our children but for all,  who were lucky enough to have known him.  We send our deepest sympathies to you all. With love and light, my John shine down upon us. We shall never forget him💙 with every snow fall we shall look for reminders. 
Waterskiing
1983, Sodus Bay, New York, USA
Waterskiing — with Scott Webster and John
My heart felt sympathy to Mary Ellen, Caleb, Ellie, Amy, and the extended Friends family.  I will always be remember John as adventurous, funny, big hearted, and a great friend.  I will miss the great times we had on Sodus Bay together.

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