Initially wrote this as a speech to give at open mic but was not really in a state to do that so will post here:
I am incredibly grateful to had have the privilege of knowing Peter in high school at Garfield, where we met as outdoor education staff members of POST 84. I recall that in our freshmen year, this group could be quite intimidating at times, and was difficult to break into without having years of outdoor experience under one’s belt. By our senior year, we had welcomed countless students onto their first ever hike, camping trip, or climbing expedition, prioritizing inclusivity, confidence, and patience. There is no doubt in my mind that this shift would not have occurred without Peter. Though he was our most technically proficient and experienced staff member (maybe in the history of the program!), he was relentlessly passionate about ensuring there were as few barriers to access as possible and went out of his way to work out how we could make this a reality for years to come. One result of these efforts came to fruition in February of 2019, where all of the participants for a winter camping and snowshoeing trip (“Siberia”) that I led were female — a huge milestone given that this was one of our most daunting (and coldest) trips. All of the accompanying staff members were also women, except Peter and our friend Jacob. They assured me they would “blend into the background” and I wouldn’t even notice they were there. So, you could imagine my surprise when, after a grueling day of ascending, they did not pull out a tent, but rather an impressive array of sirloin steaks. By some miracle, they cooked their steak dinner on a fire they managed to make despite the damp winter conditions and opted to sleep in a snow cave they made. If it had been anyone else, I would have been irritated at this display of masculine mischief, but Peter somehow pulled this off in a manner that solely exuded a sense of infectious joy, silliness, and adventure — all while demonstrating top tier fire-making and cave-building prowess to our wide-eyed campers. On our final trip on Desert School of 2019, we finally got to be “team staff” together, leading our team of ten students to the various stations. When our team completed their first hike, which was the first ever hike for many of them, I had never seen Peter so excited. He could surely do the sub-1-mile trek backwards and in his sleep, but he lit up with unparalleled enthusiasm and pride at their accomplishments. I am sure that all of our students who returned to POST did so because of his leadership and empowerment, and that they all still remember him to this day. In the three years that followed our graduation, I continued to work in the outdoor industry — guiding in the White Mountains, Alaska, and Iceland. But I never again had a partner in crime like Peter, and I know I never will. I carried the love and lessons I gleaned from him to each summit, across every tumultuous storm and river crossing, to the assortment of stern talking-tos saying, no, you cannot have a Red Bull at 10pm. A teenager pooped his pants two miles in? Skunk got stuck in a tent? Van battery died? What would Peter do? Forgot the stove? Route was flooded? Kid needs to be evacuated to get stitches? What would Peter do? Though we lost touch during college, with Peter on the west coast and myself on the east, he nevertheless remained a subconscious presence in the back of my mind — giving me confidence, telling me everything would work out, reminding me to take a step back and see all that I was so grateful for. More than anything, I’m so appreciative that we got to reconnect in late summer of last year, exchanging stories and adventures from our respective years apart. (Which all began with a text out of the blue from him that just said “Drinks?”) I was weeks away from moving to the U.K. to start my master’s degree, and I could tell that he sensed my apprehension at being so far from everyone I know and love. But he was so excited for me, and you could just see the glint in his eyes at this opportunity for adventure — even though it wasn’t his own. He was grinning ear to ear and wearing one of the five t-shirts he’d had on rotation since I first met him. “You’ll be fine,” he said. “You always have been.”