We can’t possibly share all the memories we have of John, but here are a couple:
We met in late 1976, when John was on the faculty at Kellogg, Kathy and I were classmates in their Master of Management program, and Peter was just arriving from the UK to marry me. Their friendship was just the warm support we needed amidst all that change. As we planned our wedding, Kathy showed me her own wedding album, partly because she thought it was so funny that John’s eyes had to be retouched in some of them. He had been working so hard, he couldn’t keep them open!
The photo I’m posting is from Peter’s and my wedding. John is being himself, whispering something silly or sassy into my mother’s ear. You can see how tickled she is. Two weeks later, he and Kathy invited us to New Year’s Eve dinner at their apartment. It was the only time I’ve ever been served escargots in someone’s home! (Of course, one escaped into my lap..) Another year, they hosted proper roast goose Christmas dinner. *Sigh* Always the real thing.
In 1980 John and Peter got new jobs at Stanford and in Berkeley, respectively. It was fun to share the confusing process of adjusting to California. Their house in Stanford was the exact opposite of our former homes in cold-winter places. Lots of sliding glass doors, huge windows, innovative heating system embedded in the concrete floors, and a wooden hot tub in the back yard. John and Kathy would read aloud the weather reports for the Northeast US from the Sunday New York Times, just to smile over our escape from all the snow and cold.
But we did get cold, and rain, and then the house felt more like a beach hut than a professor’s home! The windows made the house drafty, the heating only worked in some places, and changing those things really wasn’t practical. Never mind, they made the best of things and even invited us to try out the hot tub on New Year’s Eve! How adventurous we felt! Back when hot tubs were a new thing, a Brit and a Midwesterner, sitting and soaking with our friends, outdoors, naked, just chatting and gazing up at the stars! John was always teaching us something to enjoy.
Many years later, (some time after Kathy’s passing) Jayne and I met through a professional organization in San Francisco. At one meeting she took me aside and asked, “You went to Northwestern, right? Did you know John Roberts? Is he worth pursuing?” (They had been in contact through an online dating site. ) I knew John much better than I did Jayne, and I had no hesitation at all saying he absolutely was!
John was a wonderful guy in so many ways, and we are very grateful to have had him in our lives.