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My recollections of teacher, activist, and revolutionary Dave Pugh

My first memory of in Dave Pew was at an event in the fall of 2013, hosted at an activities space used by students at Columbia University, on the second story of brownstone, offered up after several student activists had been suspended for organizing against CUNY’s recruitment of former director of the CIA David Petraeus as a visiting professor. Despite some encouraging progress in the campaign, this event was not great—heavy on bravado and slogans, light in content. No doubt seeing the need to put something more on the table, Dave, seated in the row behind me, struck up a conversation. At some point I brought up the challenges inherent to organizing on campuses where education often goes hand-in-hand with a strong dose of conformity and individualism. As a counterpoint, Dave responded that he had been radicalized in part through the influence of his college professor, an expert on Melville and Moby Dick. “Wow,” I said, “who would have thought that an expert on Moby Dick would be such a radical influence?” In his uniquely calm, earnest, and disarming way, Dave retorted “Well, what do you think the whale represents?”

I learned quickly in subsequent conversations that Dave was a wealth of information and insight, both on the history of the political struggles in recent generations but also about contemporary political developments throughout the world. He always stated his position clearly and plainly. And his positions most always were well-informed, insightful, and thought provoking. He didn’t respond to disagreements with impatience or malice, but patiently broke down his thinking on a matter. And he didn’t yield liberally on points he didn’t agree with, trusting others instead to continue inquiry in the face of difference.

This approach was not so familiar to many younger activists, emerging from a culture often quick to judge and unwilling to listen. But Dave responded with patience, shrugging off, somehow, the fact that he sometimes received a cold shoulder from those who thought they had nothing to learn. In turn, he spoke at several events and as importantly, attended many others, continuously offering his careful feedback and analysis. When meeting up for coffee with those interested in discussing key questions, he generally did homework the night before, coming prepared with “a present” of a folder with print-outs of noteworthy piece of news and developments, covered with hand-written commentary in ink.

I’ve read that Song Chingling, wife of Chinese revolutionary Sun Yatsen, nurtured the spark left by her late husband and his cohorts during the low-ebbs of the movement, opening her door in Shanghai to anyone who was serious about the struggle, and providing an essential link between one generation and the next (note, I learned this in part through a book that Dave gave me and several others). Among many examples, many of them likely untold, she helped connect Edgar Snow to party members who enabled his trip around the blockade and into the then unknown red base area of Yenan in the 1930s which he then informed the world about in his book Red Star Over China.

Surely it takes a special sort of person to keep their door open to kindred spirits when so many doors have been slammed shut. How even more special and rare for a person, not young, to continue on foot to connected and assist disparate activists without any roadmap in existence to follow.

Unlike so many, publicly he did not dwell on past disappointments and wrongs experienced in decades past. He simply offered up anecdotes to illustrate what best not to do again. Unlike many others, he saw a bright possibility ahead for those who did not repeat unnecessary mistakes. When the activists at CUNY and their circle later experienced difficulties and a few others needed to “start over” in the aftermath, Dave didn’t bat an eye either, saying “just go for it,” and helping the best he could.

Privately I imagine Dave was weary of burdening those around with “unnecessary baggage.” I think this may have contributed to lengthy spells of cutting off contact.

On the other hand, Dave did not shy away from sharing his thoughts about the fundamental struggle to be a positive element in the world. He talked about his contributions to the present struggle as essential to his objective identity, saying that without doing so he would “be a parasite.” Such an assessment sounds harsh, especially coming from someone who had devoted decades of his life selflessly to the struggles of others. But Dave clearly did not shy away from critical and frank self-examination. Relatedly he talked with me about the importance of maintaining regular contact with the masses and working class, which in part he did through his role as an educator for New York City students. Even if Dave’s contributions were often theoretical, he took seriously the relationship between mind and matter, between theoretical clarity and one’s existence and surroundings.

Only later did I begin to glimpse that like most else he did, Dave was not content to see his teaching role simply as a formal matter of self-identity either. Instead, he tried to further awareness and struggle there too where possible. He mentioned the political conversations he had with his students, and his efforts to link their struggles with some of the many lessons of collective resistance past and present.

When I was a freshman in high school in 2000, I was one of dozens of students from Stuyvesant High School who participated in a high school walk out following the acquittal of police who had murdered African immigrant Amadou Diallo with 41 shots in the Bronx. We linked up with hundreds of other high school students from across the city who converged in a march over the Brooklyn Bridge that covered the surface of the massive span before gathering in the plaza in front of Borough Hall in a rally of sorts. The event raised my sights to what was possible, both in terms of mass action, but at the time most importantly, to experience the joy of uniting in resistance with those whom otherwise I would not intersect with. For the rest of my time in high school, my mind was transfixed with the idea of continuing where we left off that day.

A few years ago, Dave shared his writing with me about his time in 2000 as a teacher in a high school of largely Black and Latino working class students, where he observed the determined organizing among students there in planning the city-wide walk-out in response to the Diallo’s death. I have no doubt that the conversations Dave had with his students then played a positive role in their actions and planning, but also that he would have been too modest to have written about his own role in the process. Still, reading his account, I had the comforting awareness that perhaps I had in a sense known Dave longer than I realized.

I hope others can share Dave’s memory, and be sustained through his vision and example.

Dave and I became good friends when we met each other in the third grade at the Midland Elementary School in Rye, NY. We were in the same “home room” class through the 8th grade at Rye Junior High School until my family and I moved to Southern California in 1962. After one year attending different schools, Dave and I both entered Exeter in the 10th grade and roomed together during our 10th grade year. In retrospect, it seems fitting that the first time I ever saw the Exeter campus was after being driven there from Rye for the first day of school by Dave’s father Ned as a passenger in the Pugh's family station wagon, along with Dave and his older brother Ted - - a rising senior at Exeter.

After 3 years as fellow Exeter students, Dave and I both ventured west to Stanford, where he (an accomplished Varsity Soccer player at the Academy) and I (a complete novice goalkeeper) both started on the Stanford’s Men’s Freshman Soccer Team. Dave was our Captain.

Then the ‘60s happened, and we went our different ways when Dave left Stanford before graduating. Although I once heard from Dave from a payphone at the bus station in Hollywood, CA, around Christmas time a few years after I finished up at Stanford in 1970, I did not actually see Dave again until we both attended an Exeter reunion - - maybe our 20th in 1986? In more recent years, as Dave and formed a new version of our friendship together, whenever I would see him in New York or talk with him on the phone, Dave would always brag about both of his daughters and would never fail to tell me how much they meant to him.

The world has lost a ferociously independent thinker, a passionately loving father, and a fierce and zealous advocate for the less fortunate.

To your memory, dear Dave

From your friend, Dan Clement

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David Pugh, Central Park Ranger, Inwood Overlook, 1985
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David Pugh, Central Park Ranger w/ Jackie's P.S. 158 class, 1985
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David Pugh, Central Park Ranger w/ Jackie's P.S. 158 class, 1985
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David Pugh, Central Park Ranger w/ Jackie's P.S. 158 class, 1985
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David Pugh, Central Park Ranger w/ Jackie's P.S. 158 class, 1985
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1965, The playing fields of Exeter
David is getting into position for a pass from a teammate

It's hard to sum up the life of a man like my dad who lived with complete dedication to social progress while also caring deeply for his daughters. He taught me to always hold out hope and never give up the fight.  Although I didn't turn out to be an activist like him, he respected my path in life and supported me no matter what seemingly crazy decisions I made. In our last conversation, I told him about this fork in the road I'm facing with my career and he merely said "You will figure it out." He always had complete faith in me and unconditional love. 

In many ways my dad was more like a friend than a typical father figure. He taught me lessons through example, not lectures or punishments. He helped me when I asked for it, and needed it -- mostly in academics and car rides, including the most memorable one when he picked me up from hiding in the Chinese restaurant bathroom hiding from a teenager who wanted to beat me up! Even in that moment, he didn't get mad at me for putting myself in that situation -- he protected me and made sure I knew I could always turn to him.

Now, with him gone too soon, I have learned a final lesson from him--to live each day with purpose and filled with love. I'll miss him immensely but am so glad we got to spend his final months together in Austin, where he moved to be closer to me, my family and great live music. He had even started taking two-step lessons so he could dance with the pretty Southern ladies at the local honky tonks. He was looking forward to seeing Cameron's SXSW party, especially to see Ray Wylie Hubbard live. During Ray's set, I said a kind of prayer in my head for my Dad. I hope he heard me and Ray wherever his soul exists now. 

I read Reeve the book "The Invisible String" to explain death to him, and it made more sense to me than any other book I've read on death. I know I will forever be connected to my dad through an invisible string of love, memories and his righteous legacy.

I was Dina's boyfriend surrounding her college years.  Even as a very young & naive man I was always treated with deep respect & kindness by Dave, for which I was so grateful.  He possessed not only a highly evolved sense of empathy for those he perceived as downtrodden or mistreated but also a calm, welcoming grace.  My first night visiting Dina on the UES I can recall specifically a very detailed note outlining Daisy (Nooner)'s dietary regimen-  "half a banana" punctuated with “YUMMY” in all caps.  Another time we passed an hour going through his photos on a recent visit to Great Britain, of which there were a multitude of pics of the sheep in large numbers.  "Sheepies," he would repeatedly smile at me and say.  When I expressed a great interest in his record collection he insisted on giving me many of his LPs.  When I expressed an interest in his activism we'd speak at length on Peltier and particularly Abu-Jamal and how he thought we could make a difference. His intellect was formidable (“I forgot that my dad is so sharp he can just take a position giving lectures on economics”), but he'd always seek to educate over brow-beat.  Never did he treat me as anything other than a peer, and while that might sound strange given the context, the effect it had was one of warmth & empowerment & acceptance.  Similarly, I remember listening to an old cassette of Jackie & Dina as little girls just speaking with Dave about their childhood crushes- Jared McKnight in Dina's case- & recall being struck by the very adult way in which he conversed with them. The selflessness & maturity imbued by Dave & Judie to their daughters (for ex, Dina could never shop for herself, she had to shop for everyone she knew) has undoubtedly served them well, and in their generosity & strength of spirit Dave will live on through those he touched, & they touch, for the better.

I looked to see if I had any video of Dave, and I did do one interview with him at the time of his father

Ned’s 80 th birthday. Dave and Ned had many conflicts over the years, but in this video (not very high

quality!), Dave fondly recalls some of his good experiences with Ned. This short clip reminds me of those

nice conversations I had with Dave where he proudly talked about his family – it’s so nice to recall his

mannerisms and voice.

I am so sad. David and I had been in a lot of correspondence about the Vietnam book ever since his participation in the the 1920 (Virtual) Exeter reunion. It's a really good book. We went to Stanford together. I admired what he did there. I was good friends with his older brother as well. I don't know, this really gets me. But I wanted to tell you, what  a good, decent, politically right on father you had. I hate getting to this age and watching good men like this pass before their time. I don't know you, but, love,

Henry Sayre

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And from Steve, sister Betsy's husband.

 I always enjoyed revisiting the late 60s and 70’s with Dave, and of course talking about contemporary

politics. I always learned something new about Chinese or Vietnam history or about the antiwar protests

at Stanford in these conversations. Dave and I shared an interest in the music of this era – particularly in

music and protest. Our family has a great a collection of many CD’s and songs that Dave gave us as

presents, and listening to them now they bring many memories of good times with Dave. One other

shared experience – Dave, Jackie and Dina lived in Maywood Illinois for a number of years, and this was

my hometown!

I looked to see if I had any video of Dave, and I did do one interview with him at the time of his father

Ned’s 80 th birthday. Dave and Ned had many conflicts over the years, but in this video (not very high

quality!), Dave fondly recalls some of his good experiences with Ned. This short clip reminds me of those

nice conversations I had with Dave where he proudly talked about his family – it’s so nice to recall his

mannerisms and voice.

I was six years younger than Dave, so growing up, I never really got to know him. I bet that Jim, only

three years younger than Dave, has many more stories to tell. (In Al Cullum’s class, Jim probably caught

far fewer erasers than Dave).

Dave could be tender and playful, especially with Goldie, our family’s great big Golden Retriever​. He

could also be a tease, and sometimes mean. Dave would throw great spiraling pass​es on our front yard

football field. At times​ he looked to see if I was open. Boy did I feel special then! I always looked up to

Dave because he was feisty. He’d shake up the family and create a bit of drama. 

I would have been in 3r​​d grade when Dave went off to prep school​. In those years, I remember Dave​ ​on

family ski trips, invigorated and cocky at the base of the mountain at Mad River Glen. He surfed the

black diamond trails with ease. If you see the bold red-and-white bumper sticker “MAD RIVER GLEN SKI

IT IF YOU CAN,” think of Dave.

​​On our last family ski trip in 1967, things were different with him. I was riding the St. Moritz gondolas

and gliding ​under brilliant blue skies, and Dave ​was ​holed up in his hotel room reading Marx and Engels.

He would emerge for dinner—handsome as ever—but stubborn, quiet and​​ angry​. Some years later I

came to appreciate the impact of his trip to Hong Kong the summer before. I realized that in moments

like in St. Moritz, I was witnessing him embark on his lifelong fight for the oppressed.

Dave wanted to keep living and be close to the family he loved. As it turned out this could happen with

Dina, Cam and Reeve; and this was an enormous comfort to him.

And our family – Betsy, Steve, Chris and Jeff – have connected with Dave in a variety of ways over the

years. We like this picture by a lake in Wellfleet when Chris and Jeff were quite young. A constant for

Dave was his passion for sports and goofing off. He’s shoveling something here, and loving it.  (See Dave at a lake with two little boys.)

Truly an amazing man and incredibly committed revolutionary--I feel very privileged to have ever met him. If I could only have an ounce of  his drive, discipline and brillliance I would be full to overflowing...."To die for the people is heavier than Mount Tai"
I was one of Dina’s best friends growing up. Most of the time I spent with Dave was when I was in high school. What I remember about Dave was his kind and non-judgmental spirit. There was this generosity about his soul, which is funny because of his more practical thriftiness when it came to material things. Even though Dina and I were young, he treated us like people, not like silly high school kids that didn't really get the world. He took us seriously and that was refreshing. I saw how he made Dina feel both cared for and competent by teaching her how to care for herself. I remember being in awe of that. Dave taught Dina about equality by how he treated her. And I think she has always respected herself and held herself to a high standard for that reason. I could always feel Dina’s deep sense of trust and love for her father. He was unique. He was so committed to her and Jackie. You could always feel his joy in the two of them.
From left to right: unknown, …
1962, Mount Monroe in the Presidential Range
From left to right: unknown, Dave, Jim, unknown, Ted
Jim Pugh
Yosemite National Park - Presidential Range - Mount Rainier

Dave had many adventures in the wilderness.  As the third and youngest boy in the Pugh family, I generally learned about Dave’s escapades in the recounting rather than from experiencing them with him.  Here are just three of the many hiking and climbing stories which I associate with Dave.

#1.  In 1960 our family drove around the country (10,000 miles in the station wagon) to visit friends and relations, see national parks, the Pacific Ocean and the vastness of the continental United States.  While visiting Yosemite National Park, we took a six-day mule trip in the High Sierra.  One of the camps we stayed at was Vogelsang. We arrived at the camp early in the afternoon.  Twelve-year old Dave, his older brother Ted (by two years) and Ted’s friend Bryson decided to climb Vogelsang Peak, which towers over the camp.  (I stayed at the camp, age 9, and enjoyed superb trout fishing in Vogelsang Lake.)

The climb went well for a while.  More than halfway up the peak, the three boys clung their way up a steep rockslide.  Then they had to work their way around a huge overhanging boulder.  The rock face was maybe 50-60 degrees, and they had only a small fissure on which to support their sneakered feet.  Below them, the slide fell off over a big cliff.

The three climbers had no choice.  The slide was too steep to retreat.  Ted traversed around the boulder with adolescent bravado.  Dave and Bryson hesitated.  One by one they made it across, slowly, but safely.   They decided they had had enough adventure for one afternoon.   They started back down to camp by another very steep route.  The boys did not tell their parents about the rockslide or the degree of danger.

Years later, when I asked Dave about the climb on Vogelsang Peak, he said he “was scared shitless.”

#2. Two summers later, Dave and Ted and I hiked with our father in the Presidential Range of the White Mountains of New Hampshire.  We stayed at the Lake of the Clouds hut for two nights.   I had just spent seven weeks at a camp with a robust hiking program, so I could keep up with my older brothers for once.   We had good weather and enjoyed the expansive views because much of the trail is above timberline.

The last day, we hiked back to the car at Crawford Notch on the Edmunds Trail.  To pass the time on a seemingly endless four-mile dirt road, we played soccer with an empty soda can.  We kicked it back and forth to each other, emulating Pelé.  This was the one occasion when we three brothers shared an overnight hike together.

There is a photo of the three Pugh brothers on this hike in the Photos section of this web page. Two other hikers appear to have joined us for the photo.

#3. I will let Dave tell this story in his own words. This account is excerpted from “A 17-Year-Old Makes an Unauthorized Ascent of Mount Rainier”.  This article was published in the Summer/Fall 2019 issue of Appalachia Journal.

The title refers to the strict rule at Paradise Inn that employees were not allowed to climb Mount Rainer.   This rule irked Dave.  Part of his article describes the medical evacuation of a man in the climbing party who failed to disclose that he was diabetic.

Dave’s article:

In the summer of 1965, I got a job as a dishwasher at Paradise Inn, located approximately 9,000 feet and eight miles below the summit of Mt. Rainier in central Washington.  Over the course of nine weeks, on my days off, I climbed up and down much of the mountain and its surrounding ranges like a two-footed goat.

The product of a massive volcanic eruption at least two million years ago, at least ten Native American tribes lived in the lower reaches of Mt. Rainier.  The mountain had various meanings to them, including “breast of the milk-white waters” and “running like thunder through the skies.”  In the summer, they climbed the slopes as the snowpack receded, and retreated as winter returned.

Mt. Rainier supports over 35 square miles of ice, including 26 officially named glaciers.  It boasts the largest single-peak glacier system in the Lower 48.  Like streamers from a maypole, six major glaciers radiate from the summit at 14,410 ft. (4,392 meters).

Rainier is not entirely stable.  Steep walls on the north side cause avalanches regularly, creating dangerous climbing conditions.  The volcanic rock (cleavers) that separate the glaciers is rotten and can give way.  In 1961 a steam explosion ripped open a hole near Gibraltar Rock, at 12,000 ft., showering the glacier below with volcanic rock.  Late in the summer of 1965 I would pass through this area.

In the fall and winter, the heaviest snowfalls on Mt. Rainier occur between 5,000 and 10,000 feet.  Paradise holds the world’s record for the largest accumulated snowfall in a year.  The record was set in 1971-1972 when 1,122 inches (93 ft.) of snow fell.  When I arrived in late June, the only access to Paradise Inn was through huge snow tunnels; the roof of the inn did not appear for two weeks.   […]

In the last week of August, I resigned my position and forfeited a week of pay.  Once that was done, I walked over to the office of Mt. Rainier Mountain Guide Service and told the guides in the office that I was no longer a Paradise employee - and signed up for the next trip to the summit on August 26-27.  They knew about the climbing I had been doing on my days off.  I was aware that climbing with guides increased the chances of summiting and raised the level of safety for the whole climbing party.  […]

After an early dinner and an entertaining mountain story from Bob [a guide], we tried to get some shut-eye before we woke up at 2 am for an alpine start.  We learned that it was important to make the climb to the summit before the intense sun began to melt the snow on the glaciers.  I put on my crampons, a headlamp, a harness, an ice-ax, and was roped with three other climbers, led by Bob.  I felt like a miner who had been dropped on a hulking black mountain.   […]

As we neared the top of Gibraltar Rock, one of the middle-aged adults on my rope stumbled on a rock, fell and didn’t make an attempt to arrest himself with his ice-axe.  He had been climbing very slowly until then.  We plodded on at an uneven pace, for he could not take more than five or six steps without a rest.   He would stop and stare ahead or at his feet, glassy eyed.  He wouldn’t explain what was going on.  […]

The ill man’s condition was not improving.  Gary [a guide] told the rest of the party that they could climb to the summit but should come back down quickly because clouds were closing in.  At 9 am, three of us made it to the true summit (14,410 ft.), which is 17 ft. higher than the rim of the East Crater. For the first time, we saw Mt. Baker in northern Washington (10, 778 ft.). The other climbers in our group had turned back due to high winds and fatigue.  […]

Late that afternoon, I climbed down to Paradise.  As I was unpacking in my bunk and telling my friends about my two-day adventure on the mountain, I received a visit from the manager of the Paradise Inn.  He told me that I had violated the Inn’s employee rules and regulations by climbing Rainier, and that I was fired.

I was prepared with my response: “You can’t fire me, I already quit.  And I’m a damn good climber, just ask Bob and Gary.”  

My deepest condolences. Your dad was such a gentle, sensitive and kind man. I remember going to his apartment uptown on the weekends with Jackie. And I remember he wore very cool cut off jean shorts! I’m sorry to hear of his passing. 

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