Cyndy was my dance partner in life — and as Ginger Rogers once did with Fred Astaire, she did it all dancing backward, and in high heels.
The daughter of a military father and a homemaker mother, she carved her own path. She ignored the prevailing advice of the time: to get married, stay home, and raise children. She did all of those things, but on her terms — with intellect, grace, and remarkable endurance.
Cyndy was one of the first women to enter the MBA program at UCLA. She became one of the first mothers on the faculty in the Krannert School of Management at Purdue University, and later in the Management Studies Department at the University of Minnesota Duluth. Neither institution, at the time, had policies in place for faculty who were mothers — there were no accommodations, no models, and very few allies. Once, she was even mistaken for a secretary.
And yet she persisted, with calm determination and true grit. She balanced an accomplished academic career with motherhood, raising two brilliant and compassionate daughters, and “mothering” dozens more through her care for doctoral students, junior faculty, and colleagues. Her reach as a teacher, mentor, and friend was wide and lasting.
She was never interested in accolades for their own sake. Though her publications and contributions to the field were meaningful, she would tell you her greatest legacy wasn’t in the pages of journals — it was in the people she impacted.
Cyndy disliked battle metaphors for cancer. She didn't want to be portrayed as a “warrior” or framed in terms of fights lost or won. She believed in endurance. In surviving. In continuing on, even when things were impossibly hard. And she did. She lived long enough to meet our granddaughter, and to form a bond with the future, a thread of love that will outlast all of us.
There is no way to measure her influence on me. She was not just my partner, we were an us, for 44 and a half years. She helped me navigate life’s challenges with clarity, joy, and resilience. And now, in her absence, life feels compressed into only two days:
the day she was with me, and the day she was not.
We will remember her not only for her accomplishments, but for her strength, her kindness, her steady presence, and her remarkable ability to lift others while never seeking the spotlight herself.
She made so many of us better. She certainly made me better.
And her influence lives on.