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Cordell Andersen — "I guess I should say I'm sorry for again adding something to the record of Toby--but there is so much that wasn't mentioned anywhere. Toby's dedication to the Mayan peoples of Guatemala through what today is the GUATEMALAN FOUNDATION, that I have to add to his 50+ years of history helping to save THOUSANDS & AIDING TENS OF THOUSANDS TO GET AN EDUCATION. By 1982 we had taken over what had been a private school named originally the John Paul II School in Patzicia, and had to build for them for the first time their own school. It had been organized after the Great Earthquake of 1976 when all the schools in the Central Highlands had been destroyed. A Catholic Priest helped a group of poor Indians to organize the school with support by a the Protestant organization World Vision, but by 1981 was being run by a Parent's Committee of Mormons, and was being abandoned by World Vision. We stepped in to save the school but by 1983 my father had passed on and we were in crisis to finish building the new school and support its 230 Indian students. Toby brought his brother GEORGE on board who donated the Cottonwood Optical to the Foundation, and then sold it to Knighton Optical for around $100,000+ that totally supported the school for 10 years during which time the name was changed to The Andersen School by the Indian parents. Greorge continued to support the Guatemalan Foundation, along with Toby until both of their passings. Many thousands of Mayan Indians owe their "blossoming life" to the Pingrees and all the others who continued to support the Foundation until it's retirement on its GOLDEN ANNIVERSARY on August 19, 2017. Thanks to the Toby and George and many others for stretching out our work from the predicted 6 months to 50 years! How we all love and miss both of them. See the history at www.guatemalanfoundation.org."
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Charlotte Johnston — "I want all of Toby's children to know how much I appreciated your candid deeply felt comments about Toby at his funeral. It was clear how much each of you loved Toby and appreciated how he loved you and didn't let differences interfere with supporting you.
Toby has been important to me since he , Pat, George and John came to visit Uncle Alan and his family every summer on our farm in Idaho every summer during our growing up years.
Later he and I shared that we were the only ones from our families who raised our children outside the West. I have always had a special spot in my heart for Toby. I'm missing him. My love to Phyllis."
Victoria Piper — "Toby and I spent many hours side by side on those spin bikes. Going everywhere, getting nowhere! When he could no longer spin, we still referred to his bike as being Toby’s bike, no matter who was riding it. We loved him and I think that he loved us too. Here is to a life well lived, with deepest condolences to everyone who knew and loved Toby."
Toby visiting the Ariel & Ines Andersen School in the Chuluc Village of Patzicia, Guatemala soon after its inauguration in 1987.
Cordell Andersen — "Toby visiting the Ariel & Ines Andersen School in the Chuluc Village of Patzicia, Guatemala soon after its inauguration in 1987."
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Kirstin Weixler1988, Salt Lake City, UT, USA: "Lion House Wedding Reception"
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Anne-Katherine Pingree — "Dear Aunt Phyllis, Tim, Greg, Geoff, Allison, Matt and Mark,

I was so sad to hear of Uncle Toby’s passing. While I can imagine the joyous reunion Toby is having with his two brothers and parents, we will miss him here.

One of the things I appreciated and admired most about Uncle Toby was his outspoken advocacy for those who were marginalized or had less of a voice in society or religion. He was an example to me of standing up for what you know to be right, even when it’s not popular or even acceptable.

My favorite memory of Uncle Toby was in 2014 when the aunts, uncles, Mary-Margaret and I took a two-week cruise through the Norwegian Fjords. While the beauty of Norway was unparalled, what I most enjoyed were those long dinners together where I got the chance to spend quality time talking to and learning from my aunts and uncles. I’ll never forget one evening after we’d seen a move on the ship. Uncle Toby pulled me aside and asked me what I thought about the movie. Initially, I gave some cursory response, thinking he was just being polite. Unsatisfied with my hollow response, Uncle Toby continued to ask me probing questions, trying to learn and understand my point of view. It quickly became clear that he wasn’t just making polite conversation; he really wanted to dive into a deep discussion about my thoughts on the movie. I was so touched that he cared enough to want to know me.

Thank you for sharing Uncle Toby with us. His influence will remain with us, and we are blessed to have known and loved him.

Much love,
Anne-Katherine"
Mario de la Cruz. — "Yo, solo se que fue y será una gran persona... él primero y el último contribuyente, conjuntamente con el Lic. Cordell M. Andersen, en la Fundación guatemalteca, apoyó económicamente y moral a miles de niñas y niños en extrema pobreza; en el área de las Verapaces y altiplano central de Guatemala. Gracias infinitamente y reciban nuestro profundo y sincero pésame por el sensible fallecimiento de su apreciable esposo y padre, que Dios le tenga en su gloria que estoy seguro él tiene preparado la gran recompensa para tan humana persona para con su prójimo.

Sinceramente,

Mario de la Cruz,
Guatemala. C. A."
Frank De Sanctis — "Dear Greg and Family,
I'm so very sorry to hear of your father's passing. I know how much you loved him. He was a very good man who had his family at the front of everything but he also freely gave so much of his time trying to bring hope to his fellow man. Giving his gift of time to strangers is what set him apart. Toby will be missed.
My condolences to all the family."
Kim Martinez — "I also was lucky to have Toby as my seminary teacher my senior year in high school. I really enjoyed that year he was a very good teacher. I would see Toby every morning at Seminary and then after school I worked at Billeter , Pingree. and would see him again. He always had a warm smile on his face and I don't think I every say him mad. He adored Phyllis and loved his family very much. He will be truly missed."
Fernando Castro — "What a great man! Toby (Presidente Pingree) was my mission president in the early 1980s and remained a father figure and mentor all these many years. Always loving, caring, accessible, inclusive, supportive, positive, inspiring. One memorable moment was his visit to our family while I was serving as mission president in California a few years ago. He flew from Salt Lake to Los Angeles, rented a car and drove up to the mission home in Ventura. We sat down for dinner and did not get up until about midnight. My wife Nora and I could have listened to him all night. The next day, he spoke to the missionaries at a zone conference. As he spoke to the missionaries and shared some thoughts, I closed my eyes and felt transported back in time to those days when I used to hear that same voice and familiar upbeat counsel as a young missionary. When the meeting ended all those missionaries in attendance flocked around him to thank him, ask him questions, and learn more. When he had spoken with the last person, he said goodbye, got in his rental car and left to catch a flight back to Salt Lake. He always gave all and never asked for anything in return. How can you not love him!"
Boyd Tingey, Toby Pingree, Fernando Castro
Fernando Castro2014, Thousand Oaks, CA, USA: "Boyd Tingey, Toby Pingree, Fernando Castro"
Steven Mortensen — "The next step, Toby has moved on to the next step in his eternal journey. Toby helped so many of us in our early years of our own earthly journey and helped direct us with wisdom, patience, and great love. Having the privilege to enjoy early morning seminary before my senior year of high school was a real treat, but it was Toby's spirit and energy that made it a joy versus a burden.
Condolences to all of the Pingree family. Thank you for sharing this wonderful man with so many of us."
Tom Ellenburg — "As my Seminary Teacher and Priesthood Advisor Toby was outstanding. Unfortunately, there was also a Winchell’s close by that sold fresh donuts and competed for my early morning Seminary time. Thank you, Toby, for allowing me to receive extra credit and pass Seminary.

Looking back, it was really Toby that put in the extra time in my life and deserved the extra credit. I remember a one-on-one discussion with Toby in my car in his driveway shortly before my mission. It was about life, choices, and relationships. The discussion seemed spontaneous at the time, but looking back, I now see that it was not. I have often reflected on those wise and inspired words and the timing and place that he effectively taught. Thanks Toby.

Much later, I was asked to work with the Young Single Adults. I quickly sought advice from Toby. I expected a general and vague vote of confidence. Instead, he was extremely specific. He taught the importance of listening and including the perspectives of different backgrounds and genders. He went on to share specific examples of how this had blessed his service. Toby’s advice blessed me. Again, thanks Toby.

As Toby taught the Old Testament in Seminary, he had us memorize and recite Ecclesiastes 3 “To everything there is a season ….” Thanks for not only your season of teaching in the classroom but also for your Extra Credit of Teaching and Advising me outside of class during your season in my life."
Cordell Andersen — "I met Toby in Guatemala City on May 2, 1956. I had just arrived as a new missionary speaking no Spanish--even having failed my Spanish class in High School, but now had to learn. Before being sent to Costa Rica the next day, I spent that first day with Toby who was in the Mission Presidency. We traveled around the city on buses and visited investigators--and while doing so Toby taught me my first phrases in Spanish I choosing a couple of sentences that was my testimony of the Restored Gospel. He inspired me with the courage to stand in a Testimony Meeting the next Sunday in San Jose to bear my testimony using as best I could those phrases. I never saw Toby again during the Mission, but afterwards we became life-long friends and 9 years later after moving back to Guatemala to dedicate my life to the Mayan people, Toby was the first to help with a loan to help establish my agro-business, then later when my father established the Foundation for Indian Development, his loan was turned into the first donation of $5,000. Later he and his brother George became life-long Trustees for the Foundation and generous supporters throughout their lives--Toby being the first and the last to help in saving thousands and helping many tens of thousands of Mayans to receive an education. Toby was next to my father as a supporter and the most sincere and virtuous man I've ever known--listed on the Guatemalan Foundations Final Report as the 2nd of the TWELVE STRONG that made the Foundation for 50 years. He loved and was loved and will be missed dearly by uncountable Mayas he helped to flourish."
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Ken and Kate Handley — "Ken and Kate Handley met Toby Pingree in 1958 in Cambridge, Massachusetts. We have known him to be always looking out for others; he had a great sense of humor and a real sense of honor and justice. And he had the good sense to marry Phyllis!"
Julie Pingree Woodward — "I've know my cousin Toby all my life. I remember him especially as a teenager, a missionary and a mission president. He was always an important part of the Pingree family."
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Barry Oliver — "I first met Toby in 1985 on campus at BYU, he was recruiting interns for tax season, he started the conversation with "you guys are grossly overpaid" (BYU set the wage), I knew then I wanted that kind of job and accepted. When I moved to the Bay Area to start working it turned out Toby was also my Bishop. In his Bishop's office sitting on the window ledge behind him was a Peanuts card depicting Lucy, that read, "Dear God, What a wonderful idea, to make us all different." Toby launched my career with many valuable lessons, chief among them do everything you can to help the client. Thank you Toby, you did so much for me in those early years. And thank you Phyllis, you were the light of his eye. We always knew when you were in the office, it reflected in Toby's smile."
Martha Wunderli — "One of my favorite people. I thought he was invincible. He will be missed."
Craig Mortensen — "Toby was my seminary teacher, freshman year. He was always genuinely interested in me, both in important matters and in trivial things. He had a warm and welcoming countenance. No pretense. A comforting smile. A great teacher and listener. The Pingrees are part of the soundtrack of my teens! God sustain and bless your family while you go and prepare a place for them."
Dan, Toby, and George in Montevideo, Uruguay
Dan Pingree — "Dan, Toby, and George in Montevideo, Uruguay"
I'm really going to miss Uncle Toby and the fun times we had cruising around different parts of the world.  I'm going to miss him at Scout Lake.  I'm going to miss discussing family investments with him.  I'm even going to miss discussing tax returns every April.  Even though I didn't get to see him very often in recent years, I'll always really appreciate what an open, honest person he was.  There was literally nothing you couldn't discuss with Toby.  He was intelligent without being arrogant and almost seemed to relish the probing, difficult conversations about faith and spirituality and all things church related.  Sunstone is still around because of Toby's generous spirit and contributions during the lean years.  Somewhere I imagine a joyful reunion with his brothers (including my father), mother, and father.    I feel truly blessed to have known him.   RIP, Uncle Toby.  You were truly a one-of-a-kind gem.
Dan Pingree — "I'm really going to miss Uncle Toby and the fun times we had cruising around different parts of the world. I'm going to miss him at Scout Lake. I'm going to miss discussing family investments with him. I'm even going to miss discussing tax returns every April. Even though I didn't get to see him very often in recent years, I'll always really appreciate what an open, honest person he was. There was literally nothing you couldn't discuss with Toby. He was intelligent without being arrogant and almost seemed to relish the probing, difficult conversations about faith and spirituality and all things church related. Sunstone is still around because of Toby's generous spirit and contributions during the lean years. Somewhere I imagine a joyful reunion with his brothers (including my father), mother, and father. I feel truly blessed to have known him. RIP, Uncle Toby. You were truly a one-of-a-kind gem."
Ron Spotts1988, Walnut Creek, CA, USA: "It was the late 1980's. Toby was the bishop of the YSA Ward in Walnut Creek. Her name was Dana. I can still remember her radiant face. She was a retail buyer in San Francisco. A faithful daughter of God. Toby called her to serve as a ward clerk. Bishop Pingree invited ALL to come unto the Prince of Peace--black and white, bond and free, male and female. Toby asked if I would teach an aerobics class for the YSA ward. (I was a part-time aerobics instructor with Dancer-jetics--dance and exercise were two passions of mine at the time.) I eagerly complied with Toby's request. In my myopic vision--I was assisting my fellow YSA Saints to improve their cardiovascular endurance and metabolic parameters. Ahh...but Bishop Pingree--with his angelic vision he was saving souls, promoting gender equality (far before it was trending), putting off the 'natural man' and letting God prevail. I love you Bishop Pingree, and Phyllis also!"
Pat Brown — "Grateful memories of Toby - my mentor. Hired me as his tax intern in 1977, after graduation he hired me again to help install 1st computer at BP&Co. And he trusted me with his clients when he served as a mission president in Ecuador. Love to Phyllis (spam sandwiches and peanut brittle on Saturdays during tax season😘) and family."
Richard Knecht — "So many memories; so many times Toby's light and wisdom touched me, my family and others. Late night basketball after mutual...sitting in front or next to him in ward choir practice, super trips, that time the police came to the door after some of us...(I should skip that memory).

Toby and Phyllis let me drive the family station wagon on a trip to Idaho one summer--I'd barely obtained my permit, but Toby was a teacher, and saw an opportunity to support me.

Perhaps my deepest appreciation is that Toby and Phyllis were among so many who wrapped their arms and hearts around our mother and her five children, and "coached" and loved us with humility, grace and sensitivity. Mom would often reflect on her great esteem for him. His great capacity to see beyond one's insecurities and fears, and cultivate acceptance in the most human ways is a standard for the world. Thank you Phyllis and crew for sharing him with us, and allowing us to share in your grief. We love you."
Toby, Phyllis, George & Anne Pingree
Clark Pingree1995: "Toby, Phyllis, George & Anne Pingree"
Clark Pingree — "Uncle Toby was a lifelong example to me of how one can harmoniously be both progressive and religious. I always admired Toby’s ability to harness his power of influence to speak up for those who didn’t have a voice. Growing up, before I even knew I was gay, I always knew Uncle Toby was a fierce advocate for LGBT Mormons. And as I became an adult, this gave me much-needed courage to help me come to terms with my identity.

Over the years, I loved stopping by Toby’s house to chat about politics, religion, banking and the Bay Area. Our discussions were lively and thought-provoking and I loved them. These visits were especially meaningful in recent years since my dad’s passing.

At my dad’s funeral in 2013, Toby shared about him and my dad: "For 78 years of life, we never had a fight; we never had any reason to argue". I think about this almost daily and I am continually inspired to work harder to get along with others and to find more common ground with everyone I interact with.

I will miss Uncle Toby."
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Janell Meine — "When I served as a missionary in the Peru Lima North mission President Pingree and his sweet wife were Mission Presidents in the Quito Ecuador Mission. I was very homesick . The blessing of being at the ground breaking of the Peru Lima Temple had a pleasant blessed surprise.... who appeared was President Pingree! He was invited! I remember giving him a great handshake and chatting for a moment and all my homesickness went away.....He had a way of making you feel confident and at ease!.... encouraged thoughtful profound conversation!.... exemplary man! He will be missed.....My heart hurts for Sister Pingree and his children and all those close to him....May God bless you all and keep you in the hollow of His hand!"
John Knecht — "Wonderful memories of a great man....Blessings to all.

I still remember him during the year he taught the New Testament of telling the story about he and mom Pingree receiving their mission call to Ecquador.

He was in a client meeting with a Jewish Rabbi and his secretary poked her head in and indicated that President Kimball was on the phone for him. Toby said "Tell him I will call him back." Apparently his secretary was stunned and came back a couple of minutes later without lifting the receiver and repeated again the words and this time the Jewish Rabbi indicated to Toby "You better take this call from your Church Leader" and so Toby took the call."
Kerry Satterfield — "How grateful I am to have had Toby as a seminary teacher and Bishop. My heart is heavy but I am so very blessed to have known such a wonderful man. He saw potential where I did not. He saw goodness where I did not and he never gave up on those he knew. How thankful I am that my life crossed paths with his. I can only hope to live in such a way to see him again."
David Knecht — "What a blessing Toby was in my life! He coached our YV ward basketball team to regional playoffs at the Oakland-Berkeley Interstake Center several seasons. He taught seminary my senior year at YVHS. That year was Book of Mormon. That was the first time I (and many of us) had read it all the way through; and it has never left me. Ever since then I have felt that the Book of Mormon should be reserved for HS seniors to experience. Toby was a terrific teacher, (including the wild class ski trips) . We loved that class and wanted to go to seminary because Toby was teaching. After my mission and while majoring in accounting & tax at BYU Toby brought me in as a intern to Bud Billeter. BP was a great place to work and launch a career. Thank you Toby, Phyllis and all the wonderful Pingree's for your love, examples and influence in my life. Thank you, and may the Lord bless and comfort all of you!!!"
Keith BiggsQuito, Ecuador: "I was a young missionary, about 9 months into my 18 months of service when the Pingrees arrived to serve as our presidents. I was feeling frustrated and stagnant, but the palpable energy of the mission instantly changed, with the focus shifting towards love and service. The day of president's passing, I had a coversation with my son about our mission presidents. I spent the day searching for my president, with a strong sense of needing to reach out to him. I read articles in Sunstone, and the more I read the more connected I felt. My searching continued, looking for an address or phone number. It wasn't until yesterday evening that I learned of his passing that very morning. I feel that a part of him spent the day with me, and I was heartbroken when I read the news. Thank you for your love, leadership, compassion, courage."
Diane Inman — "Dear Phyllis, I did so enjoy working with Toby. I loved his sarcastic sense of humor not always understood by everyone. He made me laugh.
And you are such a perfect compliment to him. Your reunion in paradise will be a happy one
With Love
Diane Inman
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Bernell Stone — "Sad but a long life well-lived. My first memories go back to 1970, being neighbors and regularly running together in Ithaca, NY. And many subsequent interactions including financial planning models for Ithaca Gun and just being friends facilitated by both of us ultimately being in Utah. Condolences."
Steven Leininger — "Toby was such a great mentor. He took me around with him on appointments to teach me the ropes. And would frequently critique my comments to clients - never holding back. He was more concerned with truth and integrity than any personal benefit. Clients were not transactions, they were his friends. He cared deeply about people. Even after he retired he stayed in touch always wanting updates on family and past clients. He set the standard for professionalism and caring. He is missed."
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Sherman Doll — "I first met Toby and Phyllis in 1982 when they learned they were headed to Ecuador. I was recruited from a Big Eight accounting firm to help service Toby's clients during his three-year absence. I remember learning so much from him both before after his mission. He had awesome people, teaching, and listening skills.

We were business partners until he retired but we remained in touch over the years. He and Phyllis always wanted to hear what was happening in my life and the status of each member of my family. Such a wonderful friend and brother who will be deeply missed by all."
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Sheri Christensen Holt — "The Pingrees arrived in Ithaca just at the right time for me. Living in their home my last year at Cornell (when Mark was born) helped get my feet firmly on the ground, and had a huge influence on critical decisions I was facing in my life. And then when Toby became bishop, he knew just the right things to say to me at just the right moment. (I'm sure he helped many young adults over the years, when he was later young adult ward bishop for so long, as well as when mission president.) I am eternally grateful to have shared life with all of the Pingrees. I ended up having a very happy life, and I owe a lot of the path I ended up on to Toby and Phyllis. For that I will always love you.
Wonderful memories!"
Claudia Walters — "How we love the Pingrees! When you showed up in Ithaca, it was instant joy. Kathleen had glorious tales of babysitting for the kids. My mother loved rascally boys and the Pingree family had one or two of those. And Allison was always in danger of being kidnapped and added to our family as a sister to Kimberly. Toby kept us laughing while Phyllis exuded kindness to everyone. I was immediately nicknamed "Claudja-Baby," because the called their friend, Claudia Bushman, by that name. The overwhelming memory I have of the Pingrees is one of love. You blessed our lives in a million ways. I hope you feel our love and the love of Heaven wrapping around each of you. Hugs, Claudia Reeder Walters"

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