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Those of you who know him, quite truthfully wonder what happened. Allan Peter Mendez Sr. was a lot of things, but first he was a son, a husband, a friend, a father; he just didn’t know it. Sadly, his life choices led to a tumultuous end, however God joined all of his children from many places before taking him home. Amidst the years of his downfall, Allan fathered 8 children, 7 of whom are surviving. After years of not knowing and searching, each sibling has reunited with the other just this year, months before what would be his passing. As Allan’s oldest child, I write this on behalf of us all — after speaking to one another it is our wish to have our father cremated and split amongst us all, so we may have a piece of him with us that we never got to have before, and to hold a small ceremony for us as his children to release a portion of his ashes to let him free from what held him captive the majority of his life. The seven of us have grown close quickly and know this will only join us closer. We are asking for this assistance in order to make this closure and practicalities of cremation and death certification possible, especially since this was completely unforeseen. I never got the opportunity to meet my father, and though he was troubled, he was ours. My siblings have tainted memories. The proper arrangements would mean more than words to the seven of us. If you feel obliged, please consider donating whatever you feel led to. May His favor be upon you.
In His Name,
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