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I lost my little sister back in august 27 2019 I still haven’t heal yet It’s so hard for me to deal with I lost her to gun violence she was only 16 years old would had been 19 if she was still alive

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I am so very sorry for the tragic loss of your sister. It can years for the pain of the loss to lessen and you will get there. Just remember she would want you to carry on with your life and make her proud to be your sister.

I am so very sorry for the tragic loss of your sister. It can years for the pain of the loss to lessen and you will get there. Just remember she would want you to carry on with your life and make her proud to be your sister.
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I’m trying my best

That's all you can do Have faith and. Keep taking care of yourself!

That's all you can do Have faith and. Keep taking care of yourself!
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Of course

I'm very sorry that you suffered such a terrible loss. You should know that you aren't broken. Grief isn't a disease, so you don't need to fix it. Our culture doesn't understand death or grief and it just wants it to go away because we don't like being reminded of our mortality. The problem is our grief is t tied to the love we have for the person we lost. If we didn't love them we wouldn't miss them and it wouldn't hurt. The flip side is you aren't and won't stop loving your sister. If course not! But that also means the pain will always be there in one way or another. It will change shape and size, intensity and volume, but that pain will be woven with your love and only you get to decide how you grieve. It's ok that you aren't ok. Repeat that until no other voice in the world can convince you otherwise. It's ok to hurt, to miss someone you love, to scream, to cry, to bea angry. Every single emotion is valid and it's so much healthier to own and express these emotions than try to shut them off or bottle them up. Let it out even if you end up screaming into pillows. I've been there, I've had full blown 2 year old style tantrums, which was exhausting, but did help. I've screamed myself horse. I've had fist fights with brick walls, not generally recommended, but it did help. Be kind to you. Do your best to take care of you and give you what you need. Even though you have no clue what you need, just keep guessing and every now and then something will work. Remember you aren't alone. Hugs

I'm very sorry that you suffered such a terrible loss. You should know that you aren't broken. Grief isn't a disease, so you don't need to fix it. Our culture doesn't understand death or grief and it just wants it to go away because we don't like being reminded of our mortality. The problem is our grief is t tied to the love we have for the person we lost. If we didn't love them we wouldn't miss them and it wouldn't hurt. The flip side is you aren't and won't stop loving your sister. If course not! But that also means the pain will always be there in one way or another. It will change shape and size, intensity and volume, but that pain will be woven with your love and only you get to decide how you grieve. It's ok that you aren't ok. Repeat that until no other voice in the world can convince you otherwise. It's ok to hurt, to miss someone you love, to scream, to cry, to bea angry. Every single emotion is valid and it's so much healthier to own and express these emotions than try to shut them off or bottle them up. Let it out even if you end up screaming into pillows. I've been there, I've had full blown 2 year old style tantrums, which was exhausting, but did help. I've screamed myself horse. I've had fist fights with brick walls, not generally recommended, but it did help. Be kind to you. Do your best to take care of you and give you what you need. Even though you have no clue what you need, just keep guessing and every now and then something will work. Remember you aren't alone. Hugs
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Thanks so much


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